Would you cheat if your mate would not find out?

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Permalink Reply by Jinne on November 17, 2008 at 12:57pm

I personally don't have to. Not that I would if I was in a "normal" marriage. My hubby and I have an open marriage and are very happy with it. We both are very careful with whom we are with at the time but also know and are secure enough in our love and realtionship to not be jealous. We view sex outside the marriage as extra love to give and fun. Not to say that we don't become emotionally involved with our other "Friends" on some level but it never goes beyond that. I would never leave him and he would never leave me because of this. We both love each other very much.

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Permalink Reply by Celticlass...FAERIE QUEEN on November 17, 2008 at 1:12pm

I just dont understand this,however,it is a choice,obviously. I wont judge another,but why be married,though? Has jealously NEVER entered into the equatiion? just wondering.

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Permalink Reply by Jinne on November 17, 2008 at 1:19pm

I haven't yet been jealous. not to say it won't happen but we both sit and talk things out all the time. We did not always have an open marriage. We have been together for 6 years now and only had the open marriage for about 2 now. I am a very sexual being and he is not. It works for us because of this. He knows I have needs he can't meet. that does not mean I love him less or don't want to be with him. It is just an aspect of our marriage that does not work and we found a way to make it work. He is happy because I am happy and vis versa. lol obviously this does not work for everyone. I have seen this type of relationship destroy a couple. But I have seen it work too.
Hope this helps

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Permalink Reply by Celticlass...FAERIE QUEEN on November 17, 2008 at 1:20pm

For your sake,I do too sweetie!! I'm fortunate my David is as horny as me !! HA!!

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Permalink Reply by Jinne on November 17, 2008 at 1:23pm

lol I am glad that you are so understanding. I have found that being honest and not hiding anything from my husband (who is named David also..lol) works out for us.

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Permalink Reply by kellygoo72 on December 1, 2008 at 9:03pm

U know, this was interesting to think about but I would never cheat. If there comes a time I want out, Ill let him know... I wouldnt cheat....

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Permalink Reply by LadyHawk on December 1, 2008 at 9:10pm

i have been married to my husband for 21 years...during that time, there have been moments where i might have looked at someone else and wondered what if...i have come to realize that there is no other man on this or any other planet, that would ever treat me as good as my husband...so...i might have looked for greener pastures but they were in my own backyard the whole time...lol

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Permalink Reply by Kelly on December 1, 2008 at 9:32pm

No...too many lies to cover a wrong

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Permalink Reply by Awen on December 3, 2008 at 11:17am

oh no! I would not cheat, not only the law thrice, but my own sanity! Plus, my hubby's a big celt & that is what I need *wink*

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Permalink Reply by Celticlass...FAERIE QUEEN on December 3, 2008 at 11:20am

LOVE the men in the kilties,aye? Me too!!

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Permalink Reply by Fantumofthewinds on December 3, 2008 at 11:26am

NO! I would haft to ask the question? what is its purpose? is their something lacking in your relationship ? what is it that you need that you cant seem to tell your best friend? And is lust or the lack of control seem like a dream to you? I think I would think very deeply about this . Chesting is cheating their is no short cuts. and if you would cheat on ones love , what else are you willing to do? sounds like a very deceptive way to live if you ask me . MP Fantum

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Permalink Reply by Blodeuwedd on December 3, 2008 at 11:28am

Okay, so here's what happend. My marriage was on shaky ground. I met this very cute (picture Joey from friends) semi-charming guy at the local bar that I frequent. He started texting me jokes and we started a "text-romance". No dirty talk or anything just conversation and the occasional drink at the bar. I had MANY opportunities..but I NEVER did. Just couldn't. I have never cheated on a mate and why would I start now. I no longer text or talk to him (other than to say Hi when I see him). I am so happy that I made the right decision. My marital problems could never be solved if I had followed through. Whew!

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