Your illogic is showing again, oh trolling one.
If a "father" can opt out of being a parent simply because he doesn't want to be, that means that the woman can to right? Ok, so, lets say the woman decides to carry and have the baby. She should be able to just say "ok I don't really want to be a mom now"...where does the baby go? See, the thing is, its not so easy for women to walk away. Even in some states its considered abandonment. Although some states have it now to were a baby can be dropped off at a church or hospital or some other "safe place" and no questions are asked, its not like this everywhere. What of those places that don't have that? So she wants to have an abortion, the "father" says no, she carries to term...lets say with the intent of him taking over afterwards..he decides while she is pregnant (after to late for an abortion) that he changed his mind...that leaves her where? We can play the who's'its what's'its hows and whys all day long, none of it does any good. It is not a man's place to decide this. If a man does not like it, then he can either not have sex, or make damn sure that whoever he is with is on the same page as him before hand. The *only* option I could see, would be the option keyword for the man to offer some sort of compensation to the women for carrying and giving birth to the baby, with him taking over completely after that (and not going after her for anything further). That *might* work..in some cases, but even with that there's to much in the way of "possibles".
hold up if the guy doesn't want the child he can sign away his parental rights meaning he won't ever have the child in his life and he won't ever have to pay for it. That is the mans right.
Other than unless the mans wife get pregnant he should have any say at all because it is not his body, but even then I'm not sure the man should have any say. Because there are men that forcibly impregnating women. There are even men who get women pregnant just so they can make the women get an abortion.
plus if the guy didn't want a baby he should have used a condom or maybe just not have sex at all. If a women forgets to use protection then its her right to take care of the problem.
There was this old fashioned idea about women being reserved and modest and not putting themselves about etc. once upon a time and it seems that nowadays this idea has dissolved in many western cultures and slowly across the world. With the contraception and protections people have available now why shouldn't responsible people have a little fun?
The thing is if your going to sacrifice modesty and reservedness. If your going to be the kind of man who has sex with a woman out of wedlock or the kind of woman who has sex with a man out of wedlock you have actually be responsible and more importantly pick your bed mates carefully, i.e. don't sleep with people you think are irresponsible.
I hope no-one thinks I'm judging here because I as good as the rest had my fun before I got married and settled down. I was moderately careful and operated by a certain set of standards and managed to not leave anything cooking that might burn and stink up my kitchen later.
Now that I'm getting a little older and the testosterone doesn't quite have as much of a grip on my behaviour as it would of when i was say, 18, I can say i look at old fashioned values and can appreciate them.
This said when shit happens, shit happened and you can't change that. A guy can't make a woman go through 9 months of pregnancy, give birth and raise his child if he's not married her and if she doesn't want to marry him and keep his child then he has to accept he didn't exactly go there covering his bases before hand did he?
The institution of marriage is not a joke, it comes with various religious and lawful bindings. It protects people from each other at the end of the day. Yes it's about control to a certain extent but if control is about fairness and decency then people need to be willing to submit themselves to that element of restriction in their lives and not complain when they chose to be a little more free and unchained and it goes tits up.
"birth control, abortion and abandonment options are available to women all over"
No, no they are not. The *only* option a man does not have that a woman has is the abortion one. Everything else is going to depend on a lot of factors that we cannot base a law off of, because they are going to be so varied. Seeing as a man's not able to get pregnant, he'll never have that option. Life isn't fair and speaking of *only* the issue of abortion it never will be fair. As far as I am concerned, if something is so worried about these things..man OR woman, then they do things *before* they jump into bed with someone. BOTH men and woman can...use protection and talk to their partner before hand. Beyond that, its a roll of the dice and you suck it up and deal with it. In the end the father *has* no rights over a womans body. If he doesn't like it, then he can not have sex or make sure the woman he's with feels the same as he does, and ALWAYS use protection. If a guy doesn't use protection willingly, then IMO all his say is forfeit.