My husband and I are both Pagan. My children were raised to respect all aspects of the divine. Our solitary practicing seemed fine when they were little, but now that my daughter is getting older ( as all life does ), I long for the sense of a Pagan community. My efforts to reach out to community, more often than not remind me of why I am a solitary practitioner. Over the years, I have meet some beautiful people; however, the majority have practices that I do not feel comfortable introducing into my home and or children. As much as my child tells me she understands why we seem to be the only people who recycle, care about the environment, respect individuality and search for peace, it is hard when there is no community to reinforce it.
I am by NO means asking to meet a family exactly like ours, sheeshhh, I'd hate to meet those people.
I would love for my daughter to have a group of Pagan friends where they could celebrate the feminine rights of passage. I have contemplated starting my own group and meeting folks that way. Unfortunately due to current medical and financial concerns, I do not feel I can commit to that venture at this time.
We smell clean, we look good, we are even chatty...we seem to attract quite the opposite at times. I do not think we are set so strongly in our ways.
I wonder if my solitary family will ever find community.
I too, think I am struggling with one topic ;) Exploring this in a blog may be a useful tool. At this time, I am trying to figure out why it has been so hard to find a Pagan community in which my family and I can celebrate life experiences with.
Our attempts sometimes leaves us disillusioned...fun young family; displayed their poly-amorous relationships very openly and freely everywhere....new meditation group; too many adults with psych issues...family group; 6 yr old's are allowed to express themselves by using any and all cuss words. Oh and the list goes on.
By no means am I a prude. I would just like to find a community where we can watch Dr. Who, call in the elements and have a drink with while planning rights of passage rituals. I enjoy diversity; however, our luck of fining extremes is quite unwanted.
Start with explaining what you expect "community" to look like as well as mean. Because I'm really not seeing the problem. Why on earth would you be introducing practices into your home (or your children) by reaching out to community?
Go to meetup.com and see if there is anything going on in your area or close to it. I believe you can also search on witchvox.
We have a pagan community here. The public aspect of it is monthly meetups at the local pizza place that are open to all. Sometimes there is a topic sometimes its just normal BS having a good time. Sometimes a group will head it and talk about how their group works, if they are open/closed/etc. From there if you participate for awhile then there is the witches group which is a little more closed, but from there, there are events, such as cook outs or circles/rituals (this will depend and can be a Wicca circle one time and a sweat lodge the next depending on the group hosting).
I would really check that out if you have not and see if you find anything.
I have met some nice families through meet-up; however, nothing local. Will keep searching, :)
I think you have the right idea. You say you don't feel like now is the time to start a circle for your daughter, but when is a good time? Don't let the inspiration pass if that is where you should be looking.
Yeah, that does seem to make the most sense. Thank you.
I realize this is an old post, but I totally related to your story. I've also been trying to find more of a community for my family and like you said, we seem to come across some real extremes in the people we meet. And like you I have a hard time with people who can't respect age appropriate language and behavior. I like to kick back and have a drink around the fire just like the next person and I'm having a hard time finding people I can do that with. I have a couple close friends that share my views and they do have kids, but these are friends that I knew before I had my daughter and our views on raising children are very different. These are more like my drinking buddies. lol I would really like to find a family/pagan oriented group of people. People we can go camp with and do rituals with and go shopping with and create spells together and (maybe even) homeschool together and not have to worry that my 4 year old is picking up bad habits like saying, "Oh sh*t!!" about every thing or walking around flipping people off. And because I live in a VERY rural area it's hard to find connections. I've also tried meetup.com and have found a few groups, but not very local and they are not family oriented. I believe they normally meet in a bar.
So I love this post and I hope to see more activity on it. Because lately I have been exhausting all of my online resources for this subject and this would just be another great spot for ideas. That's how I came across Paganspace in the first place. :)
Bright blessings to you and yours.