Celebrating Tantrums

My son, Lucien is four. He has turned into a little terror and I believe who ever said that the terrible two's were the worse didn't have a four year old. That being said, I was at the store with my mother when my son (who has a sensory disorder) broke down from being overstimulated. He wanted to go home but my mother said to spank him in the bathroom.

I told her that tantrums, though embarrassing, were part of a child's life. He was upset and for me to correct him for his feelings would teach him that it was wrong to feel. She said, as a little boy, he was supposed to learn to control those things and I snorted. So what did I do instead?

I celebrated with a loud shout. It scared the poop out of him and he stared at his crazy mother. I told him, that I wanted to be loud too, it was fun. And then that tantrum turned into a full out dance in the toy aisle with my daughter as well. We were all laughing by the time we were done and he gave me a hug and said, "Thanks, mommy."

He's been fine since and instead of a tantrum when he's overwhelmed or upset, he dances. My mother doesn't get it and calls my parenting too hippie for her, but hey, if it ain't broke....*shrugs*

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Permalink Reply by Diana Redmoon on November 13, 2009 at 9:53pm: Amen!!! I so applaud you for your novel-- and very effective ideas in caring for your son!!!

and for standing up to your stoic mother, as well.

Congratulations..

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Permalink Reply by WrathsKitty on November 13, 2009 at 11:16pm: amazing! i have a 2 yr old and a very stubborn one at that! only recently has she been really pushing the boundaries with me and its hard when ur out in public and people stare. but you know what? screw em, most of the people who stare don't have kids so don't get it.
i grew up with wooden spoons and yelling so i try my best to discipline her without resorting to hitting or yelling. i find if i loose my temper and yell she just yells back so its pointless!
but i do have a question, this morning she was having a little tanty in the car and i told her she was being naughty and that i had an angry face she got really tempered with me and gave herself a punch in the leg, twice no less!! i was very shocked and wasn't sure what to do, i repeated that she was being naughty and that she would get a time out when we got home. i do not have a violent house nor do me or my husband involve ourselves with voilent or loud people or t.v for that matter! its crazy
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