dreams-- can they signify some unfinished business??

ok... I have been having dreams lately, about a person I used to be very close to, but as life would have we have both moved on in different directions. We got in touch again a little over a year ago, but then lost touch again...A little history: We were friends since 5th grade, HS sweethearts, etc.. Have not seen each other since 1995, had some email/internet/mail contact in 2008... None since-- which is okay-- but I keep having these dreams about him... in one dream, he had contacted me to come see him-- he was dying of cancer & wanted to see me..in this dream, I stayed with him thru the end-- at the hospital- and watched him die.. When I woke up I felt as if I had actually been there.... then more recently, in my dream, we were at the same place together-- my childhood home/town, and he told me that he loves me still-- even though we are both with others- and he knows we can never be together... we both acknowledged that to each other... and it was so realistic..... * Mind you, I am now very happily married- and would not trade my dear H for the world- so I know that it is not my want of another. *

My question is: Can these dreams somehow be telling me that there is some unfinished business that I have with this person???

Tags: business, dreams, messages, past, unfinished

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Permalink Reply by Diana Redmoon on October 26, 2009 at 3:47pm: how so, do you think, paranoia could be plaing into this? I am quite curious...; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by brentster on October 26, 2009 at 3:13pm: You can love someone and be loved by someone that isn't in a physical need or desire.
I'd imagine there is something the two of you need to connect, and it likely will not be of the romance novel persona.

There is always room for people in our lives, lovers, family... friends. Knowing of all the people in our lives (for what ever significance) has a way of fulfilling ourselves to a sense of wholeness.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Blue Opal on October 26, 2009 at 6:16pm: I really think that ppl we have shared a strong connection with are able to reach us during dream time like this. I've had it happen, too. And as to his possible crossing over, perhaps- one of those things things we just have to accept as unknown, for now.

When we have a strong connection, I'm sure it continues beyond the here & now-even if the person's life is not congruent with your own. Seems to me once we let go of many of the illusions of physical reality, our heart/mind/soul is quite capable of embracing much more than we conventionally accept.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Diana Redmoon on October 27, 2009 at 10:58pm: hmmmmmmmmmm....... really thinking on all these replies... will try to assimilate all and produce a better reply tomorrow.

Namaste-
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Permalink Reply by Cierra Cawthorne on November 1, 2009 at 9:02am: Maybe you need to get in contact with him. That is probably the only way that you will know for sure. Also keep in mind when you have an issue or question, your subconciouse mind will try and work on these and it manifests through your dreams. I would not go try and read "dream books" and such only because if you dream about a tree, and I dream about a tree, and our dreams are exactly the same, it doesn't mean that they mean the same thing. Pay attention to your feelings, what you see, how it makes you feel, your thoughts, etc.. Hope this helps!; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Posie Mare on November 2, 2009 at 8:27am: Generally when I interpret dreams, I first try to apply it in the personal sense, meaning I'm viewing everything within the dream potentially coming from me first. If none of it seems to apply and/or the dream does not carry my common symbols, environments, themes, etc, then I look to the domestic, social and collective.

My first thought upon hearing the details of your dream is to ask yourself whether or not you feel any regret upon the two of you parting ways in the past. Is there any latent feelings of guilt? Do you feel as if you should have done/said something different? Did you get closure? I can see all these themes played out in your dream. Guilt: the cancer story. Lack of resolution: themes relating of your past together, especially emotionally charged moments. The fact that you remember these dreams so vividly tells me that this is potentially an important issue for you (or it touches on a personal growth node).

Personally, I would turn the mirror inward first and reflect. Try to answer these questions for yourself and see what happens in your dream life. If there is no change, perhaps contacting him is in order. Dreams can always inspire action in us; that is not the question. The question is whether or not the actions they inspire are our 'best' course or will further our growth.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Fantumofthewinds on November 2, 2009 at 9:53am: Good morning , you have satisfied the longings, for you have found true love, the old has died and what you have now has filled the gap . For love is the symbol of all our hopes and our dreams. and Im so happy for you .; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Diana Redmoon on November 5, 2009 at 10:04pm: Once again I have dreamed of him...this time, after a long meditation on the time in my life that was shared with him... First off, let me say- I will not try to contact him...

This time, in my dream we were at the same gathering-- although not together, I kept my distance... He sent someone over to me-- who asked something of me I do not recall- but mt response was " tell him that I did once love him, but no more, my life is elsewhere"...I turned and walked away.

This time, upon awakening, I felt as if a weight had been lifted from my soul.... Perhaps it really was time to let go , of everything- once and for all.

Thank you everyone...for all your points of view... each has had its own part...; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Breonna Burnes on November 5, 2009 at 11:37pm: I have the same quwestion, I too have a childhood friend that , well pretty much the exact same thing you just said,.. so any advice on this would be helpful.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Diana Redmoon on November 6, 2009 at 11:48am: I am sorry-- I cannot think right now... much less be helpful... just learned that my Dad has lung cancer-- not a good prognosis.... will be back later...

if it helps-- start a new discussion- based solely on the details of YOUR dreams.... and see where it leads..; ▶ Reply to This