Forgotten ... Keep 'em or Drop 'em?

Ok, every year for the last 2 years, two of my friends and I celebrate our birthdays together! We are each exactly 3 months apart (birthdays, not age). This year we celebrated the 1st one's birthday April 5th, mine was July 5th (Sunday), and the other person's is October 5th (which we did celebrate in October).

My birthday came and went without so much as a text message telling me "Happy Birthday" from either of them - my "friends"!

No text!
No phone call!
No gift (card, dinner, etc.)!
No email!
No instant message!

I got a "Happy Birthday" text from a girl I just met in class 2 weeks ago --- but nothing from them!

NOTHING!!!!

THEY FORGOT MY BIRTHDAY - to this day I still have not received any word from them about it.

I have seen them both, left for the store on Sunday (my birthday) ... the one (April b-day) cooked out and invited the other over ... both live a stone's throw away from me! As I drove off, one (Oct b-day) was walking to her apt and asked why I didn't come out ... I said "I wasn't told to come." I didn't even know they were cooking out! The "April" one also sent me two IM's, but still no mention of my birthday!

Should I be pissed?

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Permalink Reply by thymekeeper-aka-Debbi on July 9, 2009 at 5:18pm: Get over it. Friendship is worth a hell of a lot more than a day on the calendar. If they are such good friends you should have no problem talking to them about how hurt you were. Maybe there were circumstances you didn't know about? If I dropped all of my friends for forgetting my birthday I'd have no friends, or family for that matter.

And for that matter, maybe in the past you made a comment about not wanting anything for your birthday and they were following your wishes?; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Storm Phoenix on July 9, 2009 at 5:23pm: Interesting, however, as a Cancer I am very much a family and friends person. This is not something I would do regardless of my circumstances. Trust me, I know there weren't any because we are friends. But point taken.

Oh, and I would NEVER say I didn't want anything or to do anything for my birthday because I have no family here so they are who I do have to celebrate with!; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by thymekeeper-aka-Debbi on July 9, 2009 at 5:29pm: As a Libra I can say that sometimes we have so much on our plates with trying to please everyone that sometimes someone falls through the cracks, but we make it up to them in such a grandiose way later.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by thymekeeper-aka-Debbi on July 9, 2009 at 5:21pm: It was the holiday weekend....; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Storm Phoenix on July 9, 2009 at 5:25pm: true, but my birthday is the same every year ... it's ALWAYS the holiday weekend. Which is why I would have been happy with a simple text from them. :); ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by thymekeeper-aka-Debbi on July 9, 2009 at 5:27pm: But are you the only person in their lives? People make mistakes. Are you faultess when it comes to your friends? I know I'm not.

Flame and SIN might be though; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Storm Phoenix on July 9, 2009 at 5:33pm: No, I am not the only person in their lives but they are online and they were sent reminders. They were also home that day.

I'm not faultless but I guess I have a higher standard of what constitutes a good or close friend and I hold myself to that standard .... I always believe in treating others respectfully and how I expect to be treated in return.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Storm Phoenix on July 9, 2009 at 5:39pm: Thanks Firstborn, :) I may do that eventually ... but it's more in my nature (a Cancerian) not to ask. lol

I'm not pissed ... just disappointed.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by HEAVEN'S ENCHANTED ANGEL on July 9, 2009 at 5:25pm: No they just forgot. People are in titled to one mistake every now and again. Nobody remembers my B-day unless I tell them that its my B-day; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by AlanHeartsong on July 9, 2009 at 5:39pm: I've had my birthday forgotten by all but my mom before, and I can empathize with how sucky it feels. However, as the years go by, you'll find you'd rather have your friends than worry about one missed birthday.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Storm Phoenix on July 9, 2009 at 5:44pm: Thanks Alan! You always know what to say! :); ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by thymekeeper-aka-Debbi on July 9, 2009 at 5:40pm: My brother Lou's birthday is exactly one week before mine (different years of course). There were many many birthdays that I didn't even get a card from my family because the money was spent on his birthday and payday wasn't until the next week. I had friends forget my birthday even though I'd handed them an inivtation to the party. I never stopped being their friends or stopped loving my family. They gave me so many other good memories that it made up for the laspe.

Do want to have your friends walking on eggshells in July every year? If they aren't married one day they probably will be and then you might go months without talking to them. My best friend and I went 8 years because life got in the way, but we picked up where we left off. Friendship is a hell of a lot more than what someone gives you, it's what you can give them.; ▶ Reply to This