how to do a wicca inspired weding

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Permalink Reply by Starfeather on January 2, 2009 at 2:32pm

http://www.amazon.com/Handfasting-Wedding-Rituals-Welcoming-Blessin...

That book has SO many different ways of blending Christian/Jewish and other values and faiths into a wedding ceremony, as well as suggested vows to go with them. I bought it for a little vague research on a wedding for a fantasy novel I'm writing, and I found that it's full of great ideas I'd like to use in my own wedding. lol

It's worth checking out at the very least. =]

EDIT: I just went to close the amazon page, and spotted this book: http://www.amazon.com/Alternative-Weddings-Essential-Creating-Cerem... that my friend bought, and thought you might like to have a look there, as well. ^^

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Permalink Reply by Siiri on January 2, 2009 at 2:34pm

Have some special kinds of music playing, and perhaps some blue and green colors in the room to invite specific, Earth and Water energies that are commonly worshiped and recognized in the Native American paths. :)

Maybe on each wall of the room in which the wedding is taking place, label the 4 outer elements with colors, and on the cieling hang something recognizing the spiritual - or 5th - element.:)

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Permalink Reply by CrochetedPanther on January 2, 2009 at 3:17pm

My wedding was Native American and Pagan with Christian and Catholic family watching. There are a few things you can do that don't seem too "out there" for most people. We did a blanket ceremony-that's a big NA aspect of weddings.

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Permalink Reply by Hectuba on January 2, 2009 at 3:22pm

There are a couple of books out on the market for handfasting. Handfasting and Wedding Rituals: Welcoming Hera's Blessing. There are several rituals in there that would be comfortable for any strict christians.

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Permalink Reply by Rhiannonfirewitch on January 2, 2009 at 3:34pm

Congrats! I am gettn married in oct. And I am having a Renaissance wedding which to me is pretty pagan there is alot of good Ideas from that. So a theme wedding might help.

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Permalink Reply by WrathsKitty on January 2, 2009 at 3:24pm

me and my husband were handfasted after the traditional vows and ring exchange. the handfasting was the more meaningful part for me but for the sake of my family and of course getting the actual words that ake u married out i had to do the rings as well.

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Permalink Reply by Rhiannonfirewitch on January 2, 2009 at 3:57pm

Here is a link that might help as well.

http://www.handfasting.info/

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Permalink Reply by Moonwolf on January 2, 2009 at 3:45pm

Went to a friends wedding who had much the same issues. One thing they did was had Two candles lit at the start of the ceramony,one for her folks who had passed and one for his.That way they wre a part of the wedding-I LOVEd this idea.Shall tell her to respond to your question.

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Permalink Reply by Brennach on January 2, 2009 at 3:57pm

When my sister got married, we made copies of our families heraldic shields as well as those of her husband's family on clear plastic (mylar maybe). We set the shields on a couple of large lattice type frames and they were carried into the circle. After the handfasting, the shields were taken off the frames and put in their wedding book. It was really pretty cool.

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Permalink Reply by Fariewitch23 on January 5, 2009 at 3:53pm

i wold like to thank all that have replied n will take all of ur guys advice to hart with tthe planning of my wedding ty n bb much love farie

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Permalink Reply by Elven Path on January 17, 2009 at 3:26pm

Hi Fariewitch23! Here is a link to mine if you are interested (although no actual Native American practice is implemented). The wording may still inspire you!

Our Marriage/Handfasting

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Permalink Reply by AlanHeartsong on January 17, 2009 at 3:58pm

A very brief version of a handfasting ceremony I performed for some friends is below... During the Presentation of the elements, the item symbolizing the element was passed clockwise around the couple by their chosen friends and family.

A & B's Handfasting

We are gathered here to share in the joy of the union of A Lastname and B Lastname. Love is the most beautiful thing that can happen between two people, and we are all fortunate to be able to share in theirs.

We are all children of the light. Light candles. Let these lights represent the Moon and our Spiritual Mother, the other to represent the Sun and our Spiritual Father. May Their light bring this union of B and A to grow in joy and love.

Tie their wrists with red cord.

You begin your journey of life shared, bound together by the vows you make here today and by the love in your hearts.

Light Incense. May the Keepers of the Sacred Winds whisper joy into your life; May you take delight in each other's smiles for all your days. Share together rainbows and morning joys and let your love be as free as the eagle’s flight.

Light Red Candle. This flame represents the past. You are forever changed from this day forward. May the fires of love kindle your passions for each other throughout all your years. May your love rise anew to light each day.

Present Chalice of Water. This cup represents water, and the depth of emotion you feel for one another. Share the waters of life, and share the reflection of love in one another's souls. Together explore the laughter of rain, the tears of life, and the mysteries of the Cup of Love.

Present Tree. This tree represents the Earth and the responsibilities of your love - that you trust one another, and take care of each other. Plant your roots together in the Earth, yet play in the gardens of life as children and friends. Grow old together and share a happy home.

The ring is a traditional symbol of eternity, which is why we use them to symbolize love. By exchanging rings, you promise to keep your love for each other sacred.
Exchange rings

Beringed and bound, are you ready to avow? A & B answer YES.

Priest(ess) A, do you take your love and your friend to be your sworn partner? Will you keep your love and trust, caring for and cherishing your love?
A I will.

Priest(ess) B, do you take your love and your friend to be your sworn partner? Will you keep your love and trust, caring for and cherishing your love?
B I will.

Priest(ess) places his hands over their joined hands and says: "In the presence of these witnesses, I draw this bond between you: that though you are parted in mind or body, there will be a call in the core of you, one to the other, that nothing and no one else will answer to. By the secrets of earth and water, this bond is woven, unbreakable, irrevocable; by the law that created fire and wind this call is set in you, in life and beyond. And by Love is it made complete. So Mote It Be.

We all wish you as many days of Perfect Love and Perfect Trust as Life can bring you. Blessed Be.

Priest(ess) closes book and cuts cord.

A & B kiss, turn to face everyone and at this point the ceremony is complete.

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