I'm a Sailor who went on tour to Iraq and came back with very terrifying nightmares. I've been back for a year and a half now and they seemed like they went away. Last night, my nightmares returned. I woke up screaming for my wife who was in the bathroom scared out of her mind. I haven't had nightmares that bad for almost a year. I'm very new to the Pagan scene and need some advice on how to stop these nightmares (if possible).
Not to be snarky or rude. But you need seek a counselor and face the root issue that is causeing these nightmares, they should give you some good tools to deal with this.
Now for a more magical way to help you on this journey, maybe a good cleansing of your home to start with to remove built up negativity.
Kix, I would also recommend a Dream Catcher from the Native American end of things. I am half Native American and have noticed a great deal of change in one of my Granddaughters who was abused as a baby by her Biological Mothers side of her family. After my Son's third deployment and his return home he asked a very dear friend of mine to make him one for her, it seems to have worked so far. Now for the base root problem she is still under going Counseling and is on Med to help her during her Studies for focus on her work.
I agree with you on the Counselor part of it, especially after a stint in a war Zone, as I saw what it did to my father after he came home from his last Deployment in V-Nam, but he also was in the last year of WW II and all of the Koren War and only the 1st year and a half of the War in V-Nam.
I was not pretty either and on top of that he was in the 1st group of Soldiers that got hit with Agent Orange, which he died from Cancer because of it. I know there was no Diagnosis PTSD at that time, but looking back on it from and adults POV to a Child's POV, Daddy was severely Shell Shocked which turned out to be the Diagnosis which boils down now to some of the PTSD.
But the dreams he had that scared the family to death seem to slow down some when my mother made a very Large Dream Catcher for everyone in the family. He still had some but for the most part it did help out a lot.
I second this. Husband also served in Iraq and has dealt with insomnia/nightmares and other things because of his PTSD. Seeing a counselor really helped him. I know that sometimes seeing help like that can be looked down on in the military, but it has really helped my husband.
Well if your out of the Navy now you can still seek counceling and treatment of PTSD if you think that's the case. Vet hospitals have some assistance on site or will point you in the right direction. Without knowing the cause or the triggers for the nightmares. It's really hard to ( in my opinion) formulate a way to start a treatment without first finding root causes. But therapy is I think the best way to start . At least a beginning determination. http://www.ptsd.va.gov/public/pages/treatment-ptsd.asp
having served myself in the Navy ( Quartermaster, Subs.) I can say that there are some facilities that will assist you. If you don't want to deal with the Vet. Admin. then try to seek local help. It may cost more but Believe me it's easier to help restore yourself to your original self. Than bottling it up.
As for pagans with this issue. I've googled the question and actually came up with several helpful forums. But I didn't really see any with pratical hands on help. Which I would recommend. Talking with someone who knows what to look for even if you don't see it. Is far better than writing and hoping for a response. I would think .
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well with out knowing the particulars of the dream it is hard to say the best coarse of action i do think that others have given good advice in the councelor simply because they area impartial person in witch you can more comftorbly discuss your particular dreams and the posible events that cause your dreams.
in the mean time you may like to try a few of these conccepts first try to identify what is different in the last day or so that might be causing you new stress our reminding you of your time in service examples may include a argument with a coworker or some other situation that might have you fearing your job is stake could triger the soilder emotions to fight
you migh also try to use a technique similar to lucid dreaming if you can identify the dream and what is so terifying about it you can rewrite it you just write down the dream with as much detail as you can remember then write a more pleasing version of it and read it befor you go to bed each night and thus effect the very dream itself this does take a few days to fully work so dont be discuraged if its not perfect the first night
blessings to you and your family and a most sincere thanks from my family and i for your service to this country and the defence of our freedoms
Someone told me the counseling your military offers has become way better than it used to be.
PTSD isn't fun, I've been there under different circumstances. I recommend a psychologist in addition to a dream catcher. Both work wonders. One can alleviate the nightmares, the other can help so that you will never have nightmares about this again.
Maybe if you feel that neither of these things are working, use the dreams as a creative outlet. Paint, write, do whatever you want. Instead of seeing them as a negative and fearing them, use them.
I hope you have dreams that bring you joy and creativity.
I can't imagine anyone who has been over in the sandbox not to have nightmares... there is good adivce from the other posters and also there are military posters on this site as well, some have been there too it might be worth you while to seek them out.. hang in there Moonshadow
OK. lets do work here.
1) You say you went and served in Iraq. Did you see combat? Not the oh i heard bombs go off (we all did so gotta get over that), but actual shot at and killed and really seeing horrifying things, hardcore combat. If so, this is PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder), and you need to see a counselor or psychologist to talk about your issues with it.
2) If it is not PTSD and you just have these nightmares. What are they about? Psychology suggests different ideas for dreams such as evolutionary ideas and so on for each branch of psychology. Either that or these can be night terrors which not much can be done except hang on and go along for the ride. But with night terrors, people do not really remember them, or are very aware that they are having them as it occurs during the fourth stage of sleep which is the deepest. Often those type of people are hard to wake up, or sometimes do not wake up during it, and it gives the loved one a nice fright. Do you do that? (I am not fully aware of the treatment of night terrors as i am of PTSD, I haven't really looked into it).
as with all dreams that plague the mind, figuring out the underlying cause and sorting it out so it is easier for the mind to digest/accept..... some food for thought ;)