People who are NEVER Happy.

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Permalink Reply by Mismyname on July 6, 2009 at 12:07am

For me i don't see any point in being happy it never lasts then you feel bad because your not happy anymore so why be happy it only ever leads to unhappiness and misery and despair and depression so i choose never to be happy that way nothing can make me unhappy as i was never happy in the first place.

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Permalink Reply by AlanHeartsong on July 6, 2009 at 1:50am

I come at it from the opposite side. Sadness is always temporary, happiness is my default state of being.

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Permalink Reply by Pavlor on July 6, 2009 at 6:42am

Yeah I agree, Alan.

Miserable people get on my nerves.

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Permalink Reply by Pavlor on July 6, 2009 at 10:34am

Do you say this when they are just being perpetually miserable around you, Bri?

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Permalink Reply by Houngan Matt on July 6, 2009 at 9:47am

I think sometimes its a conscious choice; I can be happy, or I can be a miserable son of a bitch. There are definitely things that can be easy to dwell on, or days that just plain suck, but even in those times I have to choose to not let it get to me... I can learn (or try to learn) the lesson inherent in whatever shit Im dealing with, move on, and be happy again (or be happy through it).

Its a similar thought to work outs... I could sacrifice all of my time busting my ass at the gym and ending up sore (and a miserable son of a bitch) -or- enjoy that last piece of creme caramel cheesecake.

My choice is clear. ;)

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Permalink Reply by AlanHeartsong on July 6, 2009 at 10:36am

I think we all have times in our life when we're sad, angry, etc. But living that way as someone's "default" state is, in my opinion, a waste of the gift of life. Being happy or depressed most of the time is a choice, unless someone has a real chemical imbalance causing the depression.

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Permalink Reply by Starrfire Price on July 6, 2009 at 11:34am

I agree with you Alan, well said.

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Permalink Reply by Mismyname on July 6, 2009 at 2:15pm

Just thought i'd let everyone know i am not miserable or unhappy or anything like that so i don't get on anyone's nerves or bring other people down just by being around them.

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Permalink Reply by d'Arqstar on July 6, 2009 at 12:14am

LOL! Oh, yes! I've met the type! There's SO much around to be happy about, but people get into a habit of being unhappy. And it seems to be comfortable for them, more's the pity! I've always liked that saying, "I'm not here for a long time, I'm here for a good time!" Why NOT let yourself be happy? Unhappiness is always there if you need it. LOL! EISH!
Maybe one day your mom will realize that all she has to do is LET herself be happy, and come to understand that "something more" won't bring her anymore gratification or happiness than what she has...because that's NOT where happiness lies...it's NOT in things...it's inside each of us. (ironically? the happier you are, the more happiness you tend to attract...the more miserable you are? the more misery you attract!) A viscious circle and an easy trap. Hopefully one day she'll just smile and realize she CAN be happy.
I hope the best for you and her both!
F&W

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Permalink Reply by Mismyname on July 6, 2009 at 12:34am

To make a post about the topic and not just about me ;) maybe she is happy in her own way but she doesn't need to say "i am happy" to be happy as some people like complaining about things that's what they like and for some people material things make them happy or as far as having things goes is she thinking she might be missing out on something that might make her happy if she has it but once she has it it doesn't make her happy so she goes looking for the next thing she thinks will make her happy.

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Permalink Reply by d'Arqstar on July 6, 2009 at 12:44am

But surely to be constantly in search of that NEXT thing that might bring her happiness is not...um...happiness? Wanting or seeking doesn't seem to fit into the "parameters" of what one generally accepts as happiness. By its very nature, happiness implies fulfillment and a sense of satisfaction and even "peace". I think the "seeking" is a trap that we in this "modern day" world fall into...there's always something slightly better or slightly bigger/smaller, more elaborate that would bring us more happiness than what we have. Where does THAT end? It doesn't! Because that's NOT what happiness is about. If you can't find it within, you'll never find it without.
Eh...just a thought! LOL!

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Permalink Reply by Mismyname on July 6, 2009 at 12:49am

just a thought here too ;) but maybe getting something new is like a "fix" of happiness to her as after all it's just chemicals in the brain so whenever she gets something new that feeling of happiness doesn't last long so she is always looking for her next "fix" of happiness as she can't find anything substantial in her life that can make her happy.

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