Poll on porn issue will determine my fate

I am polling these results and will stay in or end my relationship on your decisions. I have a boyfriend of 3 months that I am very good too. I go beyond the call of duty with this guy. Here is the problem, the other day he came in and took something to the bedroom. A few minutes later he went back in the bedroom and brought something out and said he had me something. I thought "well finally" flowers or something, ya know. Anyway he proceeded to hand me the MILF addition of Playboy and told me that he only bought it because he saw a woman in there that he wanted me to cut my hair like hers. We are on a strict budget and this book was eleven bucks. I was so angry, that he could not even buy me a birthday present, but could by this book that I went off. He said I was over reacting, etc. Anyway I am not allowed to look at a Playgirl in his house, and he gets jealous over stupid stuff, but he thinks I am suppose to allow him to look at this book and J--- O--, and be fine with it. I have been so good to this man, I mean BACK WASHING good, and I feel what he done to me was so disrespectful and mean. I told him, that it was the book or me, and he took the book back, but is po'd about it. I am a kind forgiving person, but I feel in my heart he is a person not worthy of my love or trust. AM I OVER
REACTING. I will add that I have been very generous with my money toward him, and I have heard all about how he treated his ) and he will not even take me to a movie. I think I have my answer, but I want him to read you guy's responses. Help me. Forgive typing, I am still a little angry.

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Permalink Reply by Ocean Monster on February 4, 2009 at 6:47pm: Wow, that's very disrespectful. Especially for the circumstances that he wasn't able to get you a gift but could get something like that instead. It's also hypocritical of him to the max not to allow you to look at Playgirl and whatnot, if he's buying the MILF addition of Playboy to get himself off. I find this ridiculous. I can completely understand why you're angry! I would be too. Just plain rude of him and inconsiderate.

Also, he doesn't seem like he's willing to go out of his way for you if he won't even take you to a movie!; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Rain on February 4, 2009 at 6:51pm: Uh, you need our assurance that your relationship is valid/invalid?

The guys a dipsauce, thats my opinion.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by xenosapience on February 5, 2009 at 2:27am: yeah "uh..."

if you can't do this one on your own and feel really, really good about your decision then nothing anyone in here can say to you will help you.

you spend way too much time justifying your position by explaining how "good" you are to him, how much you take care of him, etc. screw that. if he aint makin' you happy you don't need any excuse to change your situation for the better. it's not about him, it's about you! he takes care of him, you aren't getting paid for that, it's not your responsibility. and you take care of you, so if he isn't what you want then it's on him to look out for his own ass. if he doesn't fit into your personal needs - "sorry guy, you gotta move on. nothing personal but i gotta take care of me." just make sure you've come out and told him exactly what your needs are so he has a chance to compromise. guys aren't too sharp, so if you're just dropping hints you need to give him a fair chance and just come right out with it. if he can't meet you halfway then that's his choice.

if you aren't right for each other then chances are there's someone better out there for both of you and you both just mistook each other for someone else. honest mistake - go look for the person you really wanted to meet and give your ex the respect to assume he is able to do the same, whether he chooses to or not being entirely up to him^_^; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Katrina Kent on February 4, 2009 at 6:54pm: Sounds to me like you've got red flags going up everywhere screaming that this relationship is not healthy...; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Maat on February 4, 2009 at 11:50pm: I Totally agree Katrina.You need to get rid of this lousy fish.Always remember there's a lot more fish in the ocean.Much better catches are out there waiting for you my dear.People always show their true colors within 4 months.You saw his colors in 3 !! Good girl ! And one more thing ,They will never change.Can't change anyone.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by RAVENOUS on February 4, 2009 at 6:58pm: Seems To Me
A One Sided Relationship Here
I So Dislike Those Kind; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by PamWiccan on February 4, 2009 at 6:58pm: Ahh your last statement. You think you have your answer, First of all no one would tell me how I should style my hair, It is my head, my body, my temple. Secondly it sounds he is very selfish and to be honest with you not very worthy of your care and love. But you and only you can make the decision, No one can make it for you.

Good luck for your future and may you make the right decision on the path you follow,

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Permalink Reply by Sea-ana on February 4, 2009 at 7:02pm: Like Pam said, it's up to you to decide. Read what you wrote. You already have your answer.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Maire Hel Wolf on February 4, 2009 at 7:02pm: Only from what I read, and you make the choice, but: Dump.
He could have bought a Cosmo.; ▶ Reply to This