Poll on porn issue will determine my fate

I am polling these results and will stay in or end my relationship on your decisions. I have a boyfriend of 3 months that I am very good too. I go beyond the call of duty with this guy. Here is the problem, the other day he came in and took something to the bedroom. A few minutes later he went back in the bedroom and brought something out and said he had me something. I thought "well finally" flowers or something, ya know. Anyway he proceeded to hand me the MILF addition of Playboy and told me that he only bought it because he saw a woman in there that he wanted me to cut my hair like hers. We are on a strict budget and this book was eleven bucks. I was so angry, that he could not even buy me a birthday present, but could by this book that I went off. He said I was over reacting, etc. Anyway I am not allowed to look at a Playgirl in his house, and he gets jealous over stupid stuff, but he thinks I am suppose to allow him to look at this book and J--- O--, and be fine with it. I have been so good to this man, I mean BACK WASHING good, and I feel what he done to me was so disrespectful and mean. I told him, that it was the book or me, and he took the book back, but is po'd about it. I am a kind forgiving person, but I feel in my heart he is a person not worthy of my love or trust. AM I OVER
REACTING. I will add that I have been very generous with my money toward him, and I have heard all about how he treated his ) and he will not even take me to a movie. I think I have my answer, but I want him to read you guy's responses. Help me. Forgive typing, I am still a little angry.

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Permalink Reply by Moonwolf on February 6, 2009 at 1:58pm: He sounds like a jerk to me!; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Jessica on February 6, 2009 at 10:16pm: This may sound silly but flip a quarter over it. Heads, you stay. Tails, you leave. If it lands on heads and you want to flip again, then you have already made your choice...

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Permalink Reply by Meadow Rain on February 9, 2009 at 2:28pm: It was stupid inconsiderate and just plain selfish but it isnt enough to break up with him for. Men do stupid shit and they don't think the way we do. They think with the wrong head and although that is a joke it is a very true one. make him pay some other way that he wont even know its retaliation lol...like have him fix something that needs fixing...NOW...or yardwork. Be creative. One good turn deserves another :) as long as he doesnt "know" its revenge...make him suffer....hehehehehehehehe...I'll get you my pretty and your little dog too...AAAHAHAHAHAHAHA; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Aurumdraco on February 12, 2009 at 1:52pm: Sounds to me like you found someone who is only with you for your support, and has none to give you. If I ever treated a woman that way I would not expect her to be there for more than maybe the first week. Your job is to take care of yourself, not to take care of him. This is not the MOST disrespectful thing I have ever seen, but it cuts pretty close. I will stop here, as your note has me too upset to think coherently.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by MoonWraith on February 12, 2009 at 2:00pm: Do you want to be happy? If your answer is yes, then you should end it now! You cannot live your life with people who want to change you into a fantasy. AND...don't ass kiss anyone again, look what it got you. Live for you!; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Celticlass...FAERIE QUEEN on February 15, 2009 at 5:51am: 100%...ALL about YOU being empowered........; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Holdrost on February 12, 2009 at 11:49pm: Nope!...., Find someone who loves you. An I don't say this so much because of the porn but more over the
miss use of the household funds purly for self grats and the lack of the birthday gift an such are the true
signs of the begining of the end that indicates that there probably never was a true begining that included
both of you.
Start your search for someone who loves you, a search that is not always successful. However, better to
live alone than in disrespect and selfdisrespect in an effort to hang onto really, nothing at all.

Love an Light,
Holdrost the blue )O(; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Amadeus Rainwalker on February 14, 2009 at 8:33pm: Frankly Darlin' you look just fine in your pic. It would have been one thing for you both to be looking at the mag and say something like " you'd look in that hairdo too" type of thing. But for him to do that was WRONG!
Guys like that aren't worth the time or trouble. He sounds like he's starting to show his controlling colors. BEWARE. 3 months isn't that long of knowing him and it sounds like his true colors are coming out, controlling...manipulative...next he'll be telling you about how you should "do this" or do that" because of "all the things I've done for you".
You like older men? LOL (joking).
I'd say if you really love him (but again after only 3 months?), give him a second chance but just beware of what he has shown already.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Maat on February 15, 2009 at 1:51am: Remember you are a Goddess and you should be treated like one

Maat; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Celticlass...FAERIE QUEEN on February 15, 2009 at 5:51am: Its NOT about the book ,porn,or the subject matter,he is jealous,a control freak,not respeecting you,not respecting the budget........It doesnt get better,darling with a mate like this,it gets worse..MOVE ON!!! Good fortune!!; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Kestrel Pellor on February 15, 2009 at 8:13am: Sounds like there is a lot of maturing and growing up that needs to be done on all fronts.

In short, drop this guy like a hot potato. Get out now while you can. You need to be working ON YOU, and building a stronger foundation for yourself, within yourself. Seek healthier relationships.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Rissa Firecat on February 15, 2009 at 9:46am: I had that happen to me with my ex husband...and this is totally rude. Go with your instincts girl! Cut him out of your life and find someone that will be good to you as well as for you. There is someone out there waiting to be found, and I can actually see him in a shadowy form, so I know that he is out there sister. BB; ▶ Reply to This