Psycho Moms

My mother is the most selfish person I know. She has a major case of empty nest syndrome and she is basically holding my girls and I hostage in her house. She was great until my oldest daughter was born, and ever since then, she has been PSYCHO. She offered me 25000 dollars for my oldest daughter and she wants me to sign my rights over to her. I raise my kids, but we live with her and her husband, and I can't leave until after I get primary custody of my child. Court order says that when I have my littlest baby, I have to live with my mother.

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Permalink Reply by Julie on April 28, 2009 at 3:28pm: what???

Permalink Reply by pHoEnIx RoSe on April 28, 2009 at 3:52pm: My court order from my custody battle states that I have to live with my mother when I have Trinity because my ex husband doesnt want her around my boyfriend of 1 1/2 years. So, Tuesday - Friday I have to live with my mother. Just recently, my mom asked me what my lawyer said about my daughter being around my boyfriend and he said that he may have the order lifted. well, I told my mom what he said, and she said that she didn't want the girls going around him. I asked her how it was any of her business where I went with my kids, and she said that she would make it her business. Meaning that she would call social services on me if I left with my girls. Now, there is absolutly nothing wrong with my boyfriend. He works and he takes care of us. He is not abusive or violent in any way. There is no reason for her to act this way. She keeps calling his son a child molester because we caught the kids being curious and looking at each other. My oldest was in the mix as well. She was doing just as much as his kids, but shes not a child molester. Only his son is.... This woman is not right in her head. She offered to pay me 25000 for my oldest daughter. Her and her husband have asked me numerous times for custody. You can't imagine how that makes me feel... When I am here, I am not allowed to dicipline my kids. They dont listen to me about my oldest girls health. She is really chunky, and she doesnt eat healthy over here. I can't get them to stop. They are horrible parents. I can't wait to be allowed to leave! Every week is HELL! They make me want to pack my stuff and skip a few states.

Permalink Reply by Lady Adara on April 29, 2009 at 10:36am: How old are the kids in questions, if I may ask? All of them, your and his?

Permalink Reply by pHoEnIx RoSe on April 30, 2009 at 12:50am: My kids are 4 and 2. His kids are 7 and 8

Permalink Reply by chell on April 28, 2009 at 3:48pm: your situation seems very messed up why have you got to get custody of your own child ?
i hope it all goes well for you :)

Permalink Reply by pHoEnIx RoSe on April 28, 2009 at 3:57pm: It is a custody battle between my ex husband and me. We are divorcing and he wants to be a dick. I have lived like this for over a year. Every week is worse than the last. The judge settled on joint where we both have her for half a week. I am going to file again and keep filing until I get primary.

Permalink Reply by faeriegirl on April 28, 2009 at 4:32pm: Your case sounds meesed up. If your boyfriend is not a good person then think about the situation and how badly you need your space. Your mother is doing some really messed up things and I have no idea what you can do in your state.

Permalink Reply by pHoEnIx RoSe on April 28, 2009 at 8:52pm: my boyfriend isnt messed up... thats the thing. she has no reason to have hatered towards him.

Permalink Reply by Firetaj on April 29, 2009 at 10:30pm: Oh yes she does. I have been in your boat kinda...to give a short summary of a long story..I was married to a tyrant. Had three kids with him, got the balls to leave him in 06 while he was in Korea...My mom moved in with me to help me. From that point on she controlled my life (she was never around when I was a kid) try to raise my kids, she took my car, my phone, my brothers car when he let me use his, all of my money, etc... She threw huge tantrums, I couldn't have friends and if I left the house she called and harassed me every 5 minutes. When I started dating Matt she sung his praises about how good of a guy he was, when Matt and I got our own place....he is the biggest cockiest arrogant a-hole in the world. Matt took in three kids when he took on this relationship, he is daddy to them. He treats us great, he is so amazing ( I thought guys like him didn;t exist, now we are engaged and have a 7 month old baby) She has told everyone that he abuses me and the children, that he has attacked her, etc... I had to move accross country to get away from her harassment. Since i have gotten to florida I have changed my number 4 times, I have deleted all of my e-mails and such 3 times, my ex-mother in law had to change her number, etc... She has my whole family up there against me, those who will talk to me I had to cut contact with just to get her to leave me alone becaue they are her family not mine....

Basically my point... she doesn't like that you are moving on and she is losing control.

Permalink Reply by pHoEnIx RoSe on April 28, 2009 at 8:51pm: Im not asking for sympathy... i just would like to know if its normal for moms to be like that... if im crazy for thinking that shes wrong. and maybe some advice... i am starting to hate my two faced mother and i cant control that feeling

Permalink Reply by Lady Adara on April 29, 2009 at 10:43am: Sweetheart, it is not normal... but it happens.

Some people want control... period... and will not respect the fact that somethings are simply not theirs to control, hence the manipulation... the threatenening with Child Services... think about it... what is a parent's worse fear.... to lose their child... by threatening you with this, she puts you in a state of unbalance... she knows you cannot just pick up and leave... and she knows that financially it would not be an easy feat to leave.... she knows she is holding the cards hence has power over you... your fear... I have been there, so I know.... I am not passing judgment nor speaking ill of you...

What you are feeling towards her, I would say, is a natural reaction to feeling caged up, to feeling like she is the warden and you are in jail yet no crime has been commited save the fact that you moved in with her... again.... been there...

My personal opinion, is that SHE IS DEAD ASS WRONG... you are an adult and have a right to raise your children as you see fit, however, the fact that you live under her roof puts you at a disadvantage to claiming that right...

Permalink Reply by pHoEnIx RoSe on April 29, 2009 at 10:56pm: my feelings towards my mother....I really cant say. yes, i feel like i am being punished, but i didnt do anything wrong. Some days, and I truly hate to say this, but she just pushes me and pushes me and pushes me to the point where I want her to go to Summerland. I get to the point where I hate her and hate myself for hating her. Im not supposed to hate her, but I do a lot of the time and can't wait to get her out of my hair. I know I am horrible for saying that, but really... I love my mom, too. I love the mom that this woman used to be... This woman is a complete 360 from my mother...