Shock treatment for PTSD

We have all have stressful times in our life, so worse than others.. I found out last week, that a psychologist in town is specializing in shock therapy for Post Traumatic Stress Disorder... I even had someone say I would benefit.... It seems, they make you picture what hapened in your mind and then they shock you.. you get several "jolts" and soon you forget.

Now, I never saw my daughter at the crime scene, neither did her dad. We were called afterward.. But I DID see her at the funeral home before the fixed her all up.. I demanded it... Now I don't know about some of you, but I don't want to forget that. That was the last time I saw my daughter before she was dolled up for the funeral. It was important to me.

Does this make me sick? Or does this just make me a parent who needed proof that her child was really dead? And why do I want to forget it now? I have carried on to the best of my ability.. I don't want to forget...

Any thoughts?

Tags: forgetting, healing, shock, treatment

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Permalink Reply by Char on February 28, 2009 at 9:02pm: I know this is not a pretty topic, but I thought some of you would have an opinion.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Char on February 28, 2009 at 9:24pm: I don't want it... I have good memories of my daughter, and they out weight the bad, such as seeing her in that state... As a mother, I want to remember it all... the good the bad and the ugly.. That is how I am.. and I have done well, it is coming on 12 years since she passed.... I want to see her in all her phases... Does this make sense?; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Char on February 28, 2009 at 9:57pm: Thank you my sister!! Your words have touched me in ways that other's haven't... And yes, I can live with them... It was the last time I got to hold her... I can live with that.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Hedgewaerlog on February 28, 2009 at 9:20pm: Char...

I don't know the Story...

but i know you just have to remember every time She made you smile... i know it hurts... but even if you shed a tear you'll see the reflex of her smile...
I wish i could express myself better in english

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Permalink Reply by Char on February 28, 2009 at 9:27pm: I have the most good and positive memories of my daughter... I just don't want to forget her at the end... And if this does not make sense to other's, well, I apologize... I believe in remembering all of reality. It makes me feel and feeling is all about being human.

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Permalink Reply by Hedgewaerlog on February 28, 2009 at 9:58pm: It makes sense, don't have to apologize. .. you know what happened.

I believe in remembering all of reality. It makes me feel and feeling is all about being human.
exactly...everytime someone goes in this infinite cicle. we can only look back and feel deeply their lives.

Just celebrate Her life, Her beauty... How awesome She was. how She still makes you ...smile!; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Char on February 28, 2009 at 9:30pm: I don't want any memory of her taken away... And yes I was lucky to have had her.. She was awesome!; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Joseph Andrew Zuchowski on February 28, 2009 at 9:45pm: Hi, remember me? Char i can understand your feelings, you felt her grow inside you, you saw her born, watched her grow and develop, shared her tears and laughter, got angry at her, forgave her, got exasperated, and had her taken away by a cruel, senseless act> Like any parent you hoped your life would have ended before her's it didn't to take away the ending would leave her life incomplete and yours empty. We've all lost loved ones, after a while you stop asking why you just morn, pick up the now torn pattern of your life and move on. We have to have coffee someday. Joe; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Char on February 28, 2009 at 9:59pm: You know, Joe.. I have and am moving on... It seems that others want to keep hounding me about it... Why??? I don't know... And yes I remember you and coffee would be wonderful!; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Balor The Huntress~Warrior on February 28, 2009 at 11:38pm: My mother & grandmother had shock treatment back in the days when it wasn't regulated. They were patients in a mental hospital and at that time it was very common. I can't tell you if it helped them or not. They were still severely mentally ill. I personally don't think you need it. We all grieve in different ways. I don't know how I would handle losing one of my children. How are we supposed to grieve when we lose a part of ourselves? There is no right or wrong way. We talk about them & keep their memory alive.

You are not sick. Your a loving mother who lost her daughter very tragically. You don't have to forget. Celebrate her life & her memory. You have been strong. You do what YOU want & think is best. Not for anyone else, okay?

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Permalink Reply by Yesache on February 28, 2009 at 11:44pm: I have PTSD....and NOBODY is gonna shock me!!! I remember all the horror stories of the way the asylums used to be.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Magickalystics on March 1, 2009 at 1:00am: First off, I want to say how sorry I am that you lost your daughter to violence. That has to be the worst thing I can imagine going through as a parent. I also understand why you wanted to see her as she really was; the morticians can try, but they just can never really get them to look quite like the person (because the life is missing), which makes it all seem so unreal.

The main problem with using electroshock "therapy" in this case is that it isn't all that precise; yes, you might forget the specific experience that caused the trauma, but you could also lose other memories as well.

BB,

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