Should I report?

My mom's boyfriend's ex is lying to the state and claiming that she is a single parent and lives alone with her kids to get money from the state. However, the truth is that she has been living with a man for many, many years now. No one has tattled on her, even though she's quite the nasty person to begin with. I'm wondering, since I found out recently, should I report her? I normally wouldn't involve myself in these matters, but it does involve me in a way. She makes my mom's boyfriend pay a hefty amount of child support even though he's here 6 days a week. My mom doesn't have a great job, so she also relies on money from her boyfriend for herself and I. Since his ex is sucking up his money, and scamming money from the state, I don't think she should get away with it. What do you think?

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Permalink Reply by Ocean Monster on December 21, 2008 at 11:01am: Thank you!; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Kat on December 26, 2008 at 5:38pm: If your husband can prove beyond a reasonable doubt that his son has lived with you both for over 8 years then he can get that money that he paid in child support back. Child support is exactly that.. to support a child that you helped create that lives with their other parent or another person who cares for your child. She can get into some major trouble for lying about child support as well and face possible prison time for it. As an attorney or your local child support agency about it.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by ravenrois on December 21, 2008 at 1:47pm: I would let fate take care of it, I get where your coming from and from what you say this woman is taking advantage but there are many factors involved here including children. Maybe you could try something without involving the authorities first like. It might seem harsh but your mom's boyfriend made a kid or kids with this woman and now he has to take care of them(even if the mom is a complete shrew) buy paying child support.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Ocean Monster on December 21, 2008 at 8:40pm: He DOES take care of the kid very well. That's the thing. The kid really lives here, and only spends one day at his mother's.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Ocean Monster on December 21, 2008 at 8:46pm: There is only one child and he takes care of him more than well! Spoils him really. It wouldn't be any different if he had to come live here since he really does anyway. He has his all his stuff over here too.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Phoenix44Rising on December 21, 2008 at 1:58pm: That's a sensible bit of advice...; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Ocean Monster on December 21, 2008 at 8:42pm: I just wanted to see opinions of others. I wasn't actually asking permission or anything. I was curious. I do feel strongly about my wanting to report her. I used to be involved in a police explorer's program, so I would like to help uphold the law!; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by CraigWicce on December 21, 2008 at 1:59pm: Dear Ashley,

I would discuss this with my Mom before I did anything at all. It might be that your Mom's boyfriend needs to talk with his attorney concerning this. This are delicate matters that I believe we should be careful about. Of course if anyone was being abused or neglected for shelter, food, warmth and cleanliness, the State's Department of Human Sevices can be contacted. This is just my opinion from one Pagan citizen to the other.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Ocean Monster on December 21, 2008 at 8:43pm: He would never do anything about it because he's the type of person that just lets people get away with all sorts of things, even if they're wrong. He's known for a while and so has my mom. She won't do anything either. I feel like I'm the only one who wants justice. Thank you, though!; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by EcoProphet on December 21, 2008 at 9:19pm: It's not her mom, it's her mom's boyfriend's ex wife. Whew! That's a mouthful. Easy to mistake though, especially when you throw in mom's boyfriend's ex-wife's boyfriend into the mix as well. lol; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Sagemoon on December 21, 2008 at 2:00pm: I don't know about your state, but in Utah a person has to be married in order to have their alimony dropped or child support decreased. If your state recognizes common law marriage as a factor in reducing child support, your "stepdad" should be the one to make the complaint. I think he should be commended for being one of the men who doesn't shirk his duty in paying support. In fact, maybe his kids are so valuable to him that is why he hasn't complained a long time ago. Your family is not experiencing an uncommon problem. That is why I am a big believer in not having kids unless you're sure your partner is going to be there for the kids whether the relationship lasts or not. Does your father pay child support?; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Ocean Monster on December 21, 2008 at 8:44pm: Thanks for your reply. No, my dad doesn't pay child support because my mom and him arranged that he didn't have to. Plus, I'm eighteen.; ▶ Reply to This