Site Owners Spamming Members w/ Invites via Messaging & a few other things

Hi All,

I wish this was one of my more pleasant postings but it is not. I am quite fed up w/ site owners joining this site and then mass messaging invites to the members, via private messages, using the forums and by using the comment feature. This is prohibited and just yesterday I banned a member for this activity and I will continue to ban people who do this.

I have said this word tired, and quite honestly I'm fed up because I shouldn't even have to address this because it's common courtesy not to join a site, friend request a bunch of people and then attempt to pull members based off the hard work of others. When I created this site I never went onto anyones website and asked people to join this one; I linked to this site via my own website WitchesWay and my personal profile pages.

The members here did not join this site so they can be barraged with invites to other sites; if you want people to join your site then do some actual work and bring people to it.. The advertisers on this site pay for their exposure and it's not fair to them when people come onto here and freeload off of what others do the right way (ie: paying for their advertising). Want members? Then advertise your site like the respectable site owners do!

If you receive invites in your personal message box on this site (or in your comments) then please forward me the information, because from here on out if this takes place I will ban the person without warning. I tried to be nice about this but apparently nice is not working so well, so now I'm going to be an ass. I've never had a problem with people placing their site info onto their page or their blog but all the other things stated have and continue to be unacceptable..

Another issue, the events calendar is for actual events, I have been steadily deleting supposed event postings because they are not events. Again, this is misuse of the site and an attempt to get free exposure on the front page. So, if you have an event, which is a gathering of people on a specific date; in a location then please post it but if it's not an event then do not place it into the events announcements or it will be deleted and you may find yourself deleted as well.

Last issue, this is PaganSpace not Sexspace; I'm sure we all enjoy sex but this is not the place for that type of discussion/exchange (and no I'm not in the mood to split hairs about what constitutes sexual exchange etc., use your brain and I'm sure you can figure it out). Now, I'm not a prude by any stretch but just yesterday I deleted a group that had been formed on this site relating to nothing more than sex. The network is very strict about this type of thing and I'm not risking loosing my site so people can discuss their sexual fantasies. So, if you want to form a group or talk about your detailed sex life or fantasies then more power to you; go create a website, or find one for that type of activity and get with it but I'm not going to have that going on here! To the gods, I really can't believe I'm even having to state this...

I know none of this pertains to most of you, so I apologize for unloading this; as this is not directed at you but it is very much directed at those who are involved in these continual issues.

Much Love & Big Hugs!
Starr

*stepping down off my soap box* lol

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Permalink Reply by SunTiger XO on October 22, 2009 at 1:24am: "Nice matters." (I'm sorry this community was exposed to such bad manners. Truly.) Fortunately we who are mature realize that sort of lazy self-promotion/spamming-effort, such as you describe, seldom benefits the deviant in the long run. It's annoying and rude at best. {Even still, observing such deviant behavior slathered on your own reputable site must feel very irritating.}

This too shall make the lazy look very stupid.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Morning mist on November 2, 2009 at 4:40pm: Thank you for the heads up on this Star. Will keep a lookout for these kinds of messages.
Blessed be; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by morgaine1571 on November 4, 2009 at 6:45pm: Hi guys, I just want to make one point here,, most of us got invited in one way or another to this site.. I agree about the the spamming,, it shouldnt be done,, but what about inviting valid friends to our sites? and of course i dont mind giving a donation, but i know i said about a month ago, that i was going to invite people here and there and of course the administrators on this site are just as invited to join my site.

I dont hold no secrets, and my door is always open.

i would like to see the same thing done here.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by ShadowsDancing on November 8, 2009 at 1:12am: much love to you and hugs:); ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Nodoka Phoenix on November 8, 2009 at 3:20am: Love ya sister

I received a message from someone who has been on my friends list for quite a while about a new site they did, then received a letter from admin to everyone that had received said message saying it was spam. I had not thought of it that way since it was one of my friends giving me info on something, but I totally agree with you guys (admin) on the spam of getting an account adding 239856235723 friends just to advertise your site. I think if you make a site and you got 15 friends on here you want to share that with you should be allowed (again - if you know them, talk to them at least regular enough to 'know' each other on here, converse, add each other and mean it.... etc) ya know what I mean?

On other thoughts... man I missed a sex group? lmmfao, jk; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Nancy Chappell on November 8, 2009 at 6:27am: Thankyou Starr, I am only new to your wonderful site and found it strange that someone I didn't know would send e-mails to my private e-mail address asking me to join their site. This has occured twice now and I have just deleted the e-mails as I am not interested, if I receive another one I will forward the information onto you. Thankyou for all the work you have put in to this incredible site, it has opened up a new world for me and I look forward to talking with so many amazing people.

Blessings and hugs to you

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Permalink Reply by Linda on November 9, 2009 at 10:23am: Well said, sister. I thank you for all the hard work you put into this site,,,Bless your heart.
Love and light,,,hugs; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Aritimi on November 11, 2009 at 9:01pm: Wow! All I can say is that it was done, and well done. I agree with you completely in your complaints. That kind of behavior should not be tolerated. best of luck to you.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Brecia Veonne Bloom on November 11, 2009 at 9:12pm: Huh, I wondered about this, glad to know action is being taken. Keep it up Starr!; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Yarom on November 12, 2009 at 12:35am: ***any site invite that is on the ning platform can be stopped by clicking on the stop sending invites or control what this site sends you on the bottom of the invite.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by ANIMALL!! on November 12, 2009 at 12:45am: "I tried to be nice about this but apparently nice is not working so well, so now I'm going to be an ass"

YOU my darling are NEVER an ass. You call it as you see it and have even (humbles himself) called me on the carpet several times! I take it all with a serious nature and you should know that. I LOVES ME MY STARR and respect your calls and desicions on here... drunk/sober/ and all!! You do as you feel baby!! YOU no matter what, have my support, unless you go to ban me from PaganSpace!!! LOL!!! I LOVE YA BABY and thank you for all that you do!!~ANIMALL!!... OH HELL... who am I kiddin' I'm just Joseph to you and my Friends!~; ▶ Reply to This