My husband and I are filing for custody of our grandchildren. Their mother is abusive and highly unstable. She is the female Jekyll and Hyde; I am not joking at all. For the third time, CPS in California has taken the children from their mother. They are talking about permanent removal and I'll be damned if I just sit by and let this kids be put in foster care!
Their father, my son Jamie, is finally getting the help he needs in order to deal with the physical and mental pain from the war. He, too, wants to come back home. He is doing much better since he has been away from that crazy woman. She wasn't his sole issue but she was a big one. Jamie wants us to get the kids because here would be paradise to them. The eldest, Richie, has a dream: he wants to come to Ohio and be a farmer. We want to do all we can to make that dream come true. The kids live in East Los Angeles and have no idea what REAL rivers and wooded areas are like. I have so much to show them and so very much to teach them.
I ask for your prayers and spells to help this become a reality. That we get the grandchildren, Jamie comes home much better and that we all be together again.
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My thoughts are with you Innanna. I know the kids will be better off with you then where they are now.
Thanks to both of you. We know this is going a to an extremely expensive and exhaustive battle. I'm looking for a part time job to help with expenses and I know I will be in more pain than ever but it's worth it.
My thoughts are with you. I have grandchildren myself and I would want them with me if they were in the same situation. Keep us posted!
May the Gods see fit to aid you in this noble cause!...
What part of Ohio are you in?... I have family in middle of nowhere SE Ohio... very pretty there... as with rural PA, rural Ohio often reminds me of the Shire, I always expect to see Hobbits working the fields... ;)
Tiffin. Northwest Ohio.
Definitely count to ten... or go do the primal scream thing... just don't harm yourself in the process of venting... I listen to angry metal music and or go beat on an inanimate object with my short handled 3 lb. sledge hammer (which also serves as my ritualized Thor's Hammer)... ;)
Sadly, I've been reading more and more about the treatment of our vets by government agencies since the beginning of the so called "War on Terror"... our government is turning against them more and more... it's a disgrace to their honor...
My thoughts are with you...
The following is a rant: I GOT THE REPORTS FROM CPS! NEVER, NEVER ONCE DID MY SON ABUSE HIS CHILDREN BUT IT SAYS MULTIPLE TIMES THAT THE MOTHER DID ABUSE THEM! MY SON WAS FORCED TO LIVE ON THE STREETS AND HAVE NO CONTACT WITH HIS CHILDREN EVEN THOUGH HE NEVER RAISED A FUCKING HAND TO THEM! THE REPORT ADMITS THEY RETURNED THE CHILDREN TO THE MOTHER KNOWING THERE WAS A HIGH RISK OF ABUSE!!!! THEY CLAIMED MY SON WAS A DANGER TO THE CHILDREN EVEN THOUGH HE NEVER FUCKING ONCE HIT THEM OR ABUSED THEM!! HE HAS PTSD AND IS A VET SO THEY DECLARED HIM DANGEROUS TO THE CHILDREN AND FORBADE HIM TO SEE THE CHILDREN!! HE LIVED ON THE STREETS, HE WENT HUNGRY, HE WAS SCARED AND FOR NO FUCKING REASON OTHER THAN HE IS A MAN AND A VET!!!
TIME AFTER TIME AFTER TIME, IT TELLS OF LIZ ABUSING THE CHILDREN BUT THEY GAVE THEM BACK TO HER AND WOULD NOT ALLOW MY SON TO LIVE IN HIS OWN HOME OR BE NEAR HIS OWN CHILDREN!!
I CANNOT WAIT TIL THE LAWYER READS THIS!
MY SON SUFFERED IN IRAQ ONLY TO COME HOME TO SUFFER AGAIN BECAUSE HE IS A VET
I have never, in my life, ever seen a more corrupt agency than CPS! The more I read, the more sick I feel. They are not interested in helping children at all, instead, they tear children from loving families for the most flimsy of reasons. They will stonewall you at every turn, they will outright lie, forge documents, "lose" documents, claim you did not fulfill your obligation to attend required classes (even if you did and even if you have proof of it!), why? Because when children are put in foster care and then put up for adoption, the state gets more federal money. There have been people fighting for years and getting no where.
These people are truly evil.
do a little research you'll see that it is one of the more corrupt agency's we have.
i went to college with a bunch of folks who were going into the social work field specifically to work at CPS....lets just say, their view of reality was WAY off from what actually "is" as regards their future employment situation.
QUITE a few were delusional rich kids who needed a job and thought this would make em look good to their parents and peers. heard that directly from several of em's own mouth!! these people were dithering on picking a major so went with one that'd make the 'rents happy. some of these folks were NOT nice & should never breed or be let around children of any age!
please note, i am sure there are some good decent honorable folks that work for CPS but they are so few and far between it'd make your head spin!
i also think the good ones hands are tied by the rules of the agency as well. so while they may be good folk trying to do the right thing? they are restrained from doing so.
in my case? when all was said and done? i had to threaten to sue the agency, as well as the director himself, to get them to leave off. after 7 yrs of harassment by them.
you'd think after 3 yrs or so they'd have caught a clue that the "anonymous" calls were actually my sons father &/or the fathers family, oddly enough, the calls were ALWAYS around the time of a court date for something or other with child support..hmm..go figure. *can ya SMELL the sarcasm?!?*
though i had 1 decent case worker and MAN was she PISSED when she realized she'd been played by the "Male bio-unit" of my son. (i hate the term "sperm donor" it's crude and "baby daddy"--it takes WAY more to be a daddy than the giving over of bodily fluids.)
CPS may have been started with good intentions? but now it's nothing more than another bureaucratic agency that needs to grow in order to feed itself.. in order to grow? it needs to break families apart. as much as they give lip service to keeping families together and making a safer world for the children? thats not the reality.
good luck with this. i HOPE you get the kids..and pray that you can mitigate the damage that has already been done to them.
I just spoke to an attorney that is representing one of my grandchildren and WHAT A DICK HE IS! He was very patronizing and condescending. He also called me "Jessica" instead of the name I gave him. I am very displeased.
He said, "You're in Ohio??" In a tone that suggested he was surprised we farm folk had such fancy things like phones. He told me to call him back in a month.
CPS makes me sick to my very soul. It is nothing more than legalized kidnapping and child trafficking. He is also going to inform Liz that I called. Great, that ought to go over well.
There is no concern for the children what so ever on their part. It's all for money. The more kids in the "system," the more money the state gets.
When I wrote to a lawyer to fight CPS, he said time is very important and things must be started right away but this dickwad I just talked to told me, in a disapproving manner, that I was far too early. Another official with whom I spoke today sounded very happy that these children have people who want them.
The asshole said the mother wants to be reunited with the children. Of course she does AND SHE IS ALSO THE ONE THAT ABUSES THEM!! HOW MANY TIMES ARE YOU GOING TO PUT THOSE CHILDREN BACK INTO THE HANDS OF THEIR ABUSER????
i'd say look for a different attorney obviously this dickweed is on their side..might even be in cahoots with em..yeah i know "conspiracy theory much"? but really? it's not that far off and has been known to happen.
so yeah..GO GET A DIFFERENT ATTORNEY!! and give a review somewhere about the other attorney that was condescending.