What is Love?

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Permalink Reply by Char on December 17, 2008 at 11:35pm

I have found that over the years, love begins with the love of self.. It is very hard to love others in a way that is pure when you can't even love yourself... Love starts at home.

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Permalink Reply by Walksfar on December 18, 2008 at 1:36pm

I agree with you 100%. If you can't love yourself then how can you love someone else.

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Permalink Reply by The Goose on December 18, 2008 at 12:25am

Just my opinion here. My boyfriend and I love one another. We don't spend a lot of time staring into each others eyes and murmuring sweet nothings at one another. That sort of thing goes out the window after a couple of years. What does, to me signify love is after a few years you still WANT to come home to that person. Through the good and the bad. You do things together, every day, and take the time to say "I love you" quite a bit. Love is your best friend and you can't imagine not having that person around you, and they feel the same. Love is watching a movie together and enjoying that movie more because your love is there with you to share the experience. You talk about the movie afterward and discuss. Laugh A LOT. That's the important part. It can't be one sided. It has to be felt equally from both sides. And remember sex is great, but it's a small part of actual love. A hard crush is nothing at all like love. It's very one sided.

Goose

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Permalink Reply by d'Arqstar on December 18, 2008 at 12:47am

If it makes you happy and is a feeling you know you'll never want to be without...what does it matter whether it quaifies as anyone else's definition of love? (and even THAT is MY definition. LOL!)
All I can say is...YOU'LL KNOW!
(sounds like a cop-out, I know...but we're all unique and what I experience as LOVE...you might not!)
BB
d'Arqstar

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Permalink Reply by Ruby Tuesday on December 18, 2008 at 1:05am

I've been with my current boyfriend for a year and three months, and the initial fireworks have died down (for the most part, hehe), and been replaced by a slow, sensual burn. That's how I like to think of it, anyway: love is when the spark dies down, but you still feel an all-encompassing affection for the other person and accept them for exactly who they are, flaws and all. If you find yourself wanting to move on after the spark has died, that's probably only an infatuation, but if you find your feelings for the person growing even though the spark has died down, then that's love, to me.

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Permalink Reply by AlanHeartsong on December 18, 2008 at 1:28am

I don't believe that love is instant, unless it's that Agape kind of love. We really need more words to classify what we're talking about, when we talk about love. I love my mother, but it's not the same emotion as when I loved an ex-boyfriend, and neither of those is the same feeling I have for my two cats. (My pweshus wittle snuggly babysnookumses!)

The one thing all of those kinds of love had in common, though, is that being with the object of my affection lifted my heart and spirit up... being together made me happier than being apart. It's not about sex, or romance, it's about happiness involving another living being, I guess. Sometimes, my cats are so sweet and affectionate they make me just tear up. I love my mom so much that I'd jump in front of a bullet for her, if I had to, but for the most part I'm just happy she and I have a great time when we're together. As for ex-boyfriends... well, when the love was "fresh", I got this stupid goofy grin every time I talked with them or thought about them. My friends described me as "radioactive" when I was in love.

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Permalink Reply by Maat on December 18, 2008 at 1:41am

To me ,love is a meeting of the minds.When you have a lot in common,My husband & I share in different forms of art ,we like pretty much the same music ,we're both rock & gem hounds,our spiritual beliefs are in sync .We always seem to know what the other is thinking.we have lively discussions on almost any topic .We do most things together.We're best friends !When you find your best friend ,you've found LOVE !!!

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Permalink Reply by Dravan Luhawk on December 18, 2008 at 2:26am

Love is being able to sit silently in one another's company without feeling awkward about it. When being close is enough without trying to constantly start mundane conversations to fill in an unseen gap.

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Permalink Reply by Avalon Febura on December 18, 2008 at 4:17am

amazin i could not have said it better!!

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Permalink Reply by xenosapience on December 18, 2008 at 3:01am

baby, don't hurt me...


don't hurt me no more.

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Permalink Reply by Allis N. Wonderland on December 18, 2008 at 3:40am

LOL *head bob*

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Permalink Reply by Maire Hel Wolf on December 18, 2008 at 4:07am

exactly...and, roflmao

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