What is Love?

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Permalink Reply by Daisye on December 18, 2008 at 1:35pm

What a great explaination of love!!!!

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Permalink Reply by xenosapience on December 18, 2008 at 4:26am

Love is Gravity. Love is the opposite of Fear. Love it the power behind the light. Love is what holds everything together.

When I am with you, we stay up all night,
When you're not here, I can't get to sleep.
Praise God for these two insomnias!
And the difference between them.
-rumi

Let the lover be disgraceful, crazy,
absentminded. Someone sober
will worry about things going badly.
Let the lover be.
-rumi

Love is the cure,
for your pain will keep giving birth to more pain
until your eyes constantly exhale love
as effortlessly as your body yields its scent.
-rumi

O Love, O pure deep Love, be here, be now,
Be all – worlds dissolve into your
stainless endless radiance,
Frail living leaves burn with your brighter
than cold stares –
Make me your servant, your breath, your core.
-rumi

Love is not condescension, never
that, nor books, nor any marking
on paper, nor what people say of
each other. Love is a tree with
branches reaching into eternity
and roots set deep in eternity,
and no trunk! Have you seen it?

The mind cannot. Your desiring
cannot. The longing you feel for
this loves comes from inside you.

When you become the Friend, your
longing will be as the man in
the ocean who holds to a piece of
wood. Eventually, wood, man, and
oceans become one swaying being,
shams Tabriz, the secret of God.
-rumi

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Permalink Reply by Avalon Febura on December 18, 2008 at 4:30am

love is when you can fully trust ones self and love ones self , when you have respect and trust . for me ive been married before and never really new the true meaning, when two people can treat each other with total respect, to love is two not be blinded to know each others flaws and be able to smile sweetly and see them as they truly are, no one is perfect but we can live in our own perfect bubbles when we truly love our selves, if you are in a place that feels miles from this then change one little thing about your self once a week , take that time to analize and focus on what you want and how you can make it happen for you, i know this may sound blah blah because i been there, making wrong choices not loving my self and atracting the wrong kind of love, two and half years from pain and later i am happier than i have ever been in my life, i studyed and did life coaching and i coached my sell lmao but small gradual changes and im there happy and i found true love, WOW!!! to put into simple terms i love my self now and have bags more confidence than i ever had before, i hope this helps love and light and, im happy to assist you if you need to get to wear you wanna be xx

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Permalink Reply by Scarlet on December 18, 2008 at 7:48am

Let's start with our first experience of love... hopefully, our first experience was to recieve love, from a parent or guardian. Then, as a child, it was completely natural to return the most genuine love man has ever known (children are capable of the most unconditional love). Hopefully, as we grow older, we are able to keep that love and our understanding of it can grow and then when we meet other people, we can show them that love as well... maybe not manifesting in the same manner... we don't love our parents the same way we love our siblings or the same way we love our spouses or the same way we love our best pal... but hopefully, we will recognize it and trust it.

Love is one part acceptance, one part good will and one part miracle.

Acceptance can be simply accepting someone as they are, it can be an appreciation of who they are and their uniqueness and it can be a welcoming feeling towards spending time with them. Goodwill means wishing them the best, offering them your best side and caring enough to want to help them when they need help. And the miracle is that it can heal us all.
-Scarlet

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Permalink Reply by Lady Azaria on December 18, 2008 at 8:15am

For me, love is being able to be yourself and still be accepted unconditionally for all your faults..and being able to do the same. Something, I've lacked in my previous relationships, but have found now..:)

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Permalink Reply by risalunastar on December 18, 2008 at 1:00pm

I think there are many types of "love" . Imean the love i have for my children is absolutly differant than what i felt for my late husband. the love i have for my new boyfriend grows everyday. I guess i knew i loved him whne i realised that i just enjoyed doing everything with him even if its folding the laundry or cooking dinner. Love doesnt have to be all fireworks all the time, its the comfort of being with someone who knows and loves you even if you just got out of bed and need to comb your hair, or youve been in bed sick all day and they still want to hold you in thier arms. I am so thankful that after 41 years i found my other half.
Risalunastar

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Permalink Reply by Tribal Lord on December 18, 2008 at 1:19pm

Here are some movie examples of what I think personify what love is please do add to this list.

Neo and Trinity(Matrix trilogy)
Lloyd Dobler and Diane Court(Say Anything)
John Trager and Sara Thomas(Serendipity)
Jake and Sara Nolan (Must Love Dogs)
Rob Gordon and Laura (High Fidelity)
Bob Rueland and Grace Biggs (Return To Me)

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Permalink Reply by ckevn on December 18, 2008 at 1:39pm

Love is a verb; it is an action we perform because we care. Being in love is a selfish construct based on ego gratification (it makes me feel good) When we love, we perform selfless acts; there is no expectation of reciprocation. BB

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Permalink Reply by Daisye on December 18, 2008 at 1:48pm

I struggled with this myself before I met Jim. I thought I had been in love before- it was not love but more of a infactuation of some sort. What I feel with Jim is so different. I am in love with him and it just continues to grow. I can not picture my future without him. He is the only person that I can share EVERYTHING with. We accept each others flaws and cookieness. There are times that one has went to call the other just to discover the other has beat them to it - which makes me believe we are on the same wave length if that makes sense. We just 'fit' together. I miss him before he leaves. I love him even when we fight. He inspires me to be what I am and to grow.

Then there is other loves too. The love between a parent and child, between siblings, between other family members, between friends, between an individual and nature, and between yourself and your animal family.

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Permalink Reply by Lady Athena on December 18, 2008 at 11:13pm

Thank you for all the replies and perspective on this... I guess what I am searching for is more of what is 'romantic - partner' love?

I have been with someone who has hurt me terribly almost a year ago, to where the pain changed who I was, and made me terribly unbalanced. I have never stayed with someone who has hurt me, and have left those with out looking back. It has been different with him, we are still together, almost two years now. He has done everything he can to make me feel loved by him unconditionally and has been very supportive of me dealing with my pain. Even though this is something that happened a year ago, I still hurt almost as much as I did when the event occured. Triggers and flashbacks are sometimes unbearable. I can tell that I am beginning to heal, but still feel a sense of unbalance and like I am in a dark place at times. I often question my reasons for staying with him, I know I dont fear being alone because I like having my space. But the fact that after we have been through so much and for me to still be around makes me wonder if it is love, but I dont have that 'lovely dovey happily ever after feeling' .. he is just someone that love to be around and miss terribly when we arent together. We have fun together.. we can finish each others thoughts and sentences... I just really dont understand how after feeling the ultimate betrayal, I decided to stay with him and why I didnt walk away?...

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Permalink Reply by Avalon Febura on December 19, 2008 at 5:11am

bless you hun, i know excactly how you feel, ive been there in my previous relationship and i tried every thing to keep the pain away,and keep us together. i went to counciling and alsorts and i did love him dearly it was true love for me but he betrayed me and i stayed, but eventually it ended,seven yrs on what a waist and i will always know i loved him but it takes more to mend a broken heart. now firstly theres couple things i learned that may help as this was eight years ago. the first is if you really belive in your heart that this betrail will never happen again then may be theres hope in working through, i think deep down all though i belived the said in my sub con i didnt really belive it, all those questions why why why and what did i do wrong, in the long run we loved each other but love isnt always enough you have to have lots of other things to support that love. define love unconditional love no thats what we have for our children when there young, unconditional love in a relation ship ouch well let me explain if you had betrail then with out a dought his love was not unconditional towards you, because if was then he would never betray! and yes before people start saying this is rubbish, let me say that yes no one person is perfect but one person is perfect to the right partner, and if his excuse for betrayail is i was drunk or i have prob then when did he have the right to dump that on you! he is individual and if he had prob he should have delbt with it we all are in control of our very actions, easier said than done i know but thats unconditional love is when you put someones feelings not nesesarilly above your own but on a par with total respect, do un to others as you would like done to you, now obviously people will disagree usually people in denial who have betrayed or been betrayed but you deserve to recieve the same respect. i really hope that you find inner peace because untill you can then it will be an uphill struggle, i hope i havent come over all neg thats not my intention id just hate to see you still feeling like this in 5/ 10 years picture where you and him will be in five years and then ten be realistic and honest in your thoughts and there lies your answers. time take care hun and love and light xxxxxxxxxx

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