Recently i was driving with my mother in the passenger seat and she was in such a horrible mood it effected me in a way that i had a hard time concentrating on my driving...now i am not a bad driver, but that day i nearly got into a few car accidents...i think it's time to start learning how to put up walls and any advice would be much appreciated.
Melissa this is something that as empaths we all need to work on. My favorite shield for a beginner is the bubble shield. It's what I first taught my daughter who is also an empath. First off sit somewhere with your feet firmly on the ground. Take a few cleansing breaths and relax your shoulders and neck and arms. When you feel relaxed.. envision yourself in a field of flowers... smell the sweet scent of the flowers around you.. feel the sun warming your skin... Look up and in the distance you see a large bubble coming towards you.. as it approaches you realize that it is large enough to encompass you... It gently floats down to the ground and softly lands on the flowers waiting for you to enter... Without fear, you approach the bubble and touch it... you feel it give way to your hand and realize it will not burst and you slowly walk into the bubble. You feel a sense of calm around you and know that you are protected in the Goddess's embrace... nothing will penetrate this bubble unless you allow it to...
My daughter does this every day as part of her morning routine... she does it as she sits on the toilet every day before heading off to high school. She has since also done some others... We both do layers of shielding in our daily lives... for the most part this is the inner shield... I usually use a brick shield next where I envision building the barrier around me brick by brick...and finish that one off with a combination lock... and if I'm in a place where I really feel that I need more protection I add a shield of mirrors. I like to picture a huge disco ball that has a door in it that I walk into. This door is also protected by many locks... a pad lock, chain lock and a combination lock. The mirrors reflect any negativity and ill will away from me and back to the person that is sending those feelings my way.
Keep in mind these are just my favorite techniques... and it's not always easy to keep the walls up around family for me... but they do help...Good luck.
I tend to put up walls upon walls, but then I get paranoid. Lol. I like to envision myself surrounded by amethyst crystals that poke out in every direction, sharp to touch. Recently, I have learned to call upon Bear and shapeshift into his skin to help me feel courageous. So that might be another option (with a different animal or the same).
When my mother is in a bad mood...it usually puts everyone else into a bad mood. I come into my room to hide because her emotions are too strong. Being in a car with her though? Wow. That must have been VERY uncomfortable for you to be enclosed in such a small space with her.
I learned that I needed to put up walls years ago and what worked for me was visualizing. first I visualized a cling wrap type shield then thicker and thicker as needed a brick wall is the thickest I have the cling wrap reminds me of a condom still permeable but can be broken by certain people the thicker it gets the harder it is for others to feel your energy and you to feel theirs but it does work. crystals work wonders hematite is better for men as women get headaches and backaches from it. quartz cleanses itself of negative energy that's why as a master of crystology I use quartz a lot you can find it in multiple types that best suit your personality and needs to shield yourself with. there are lots of other stones that are greatly suited for shielding but quartz is widely available and easy to find and way cheaper. I like to use evil eye pendants and I also carry a skeleton key in my car to protect my car it has for years and years. I just had it tattooed on me actually so now it helps protect my person as well.
I love my crystals. I always have a pouch of a few of my favorite stones that I carry with me. It has a clear quartz willendorf goddess, a tiny clear quartz wand,amethyst,citrine, jet, and a tiny white fetish dove in mother of pearl(one of my totems) and two toe nails,one from each of my dogs. Apparently they felt that I needed them with me. Both toe nails were gifted to me by my dogs.. they were found in my purse in the side pocket the home of my crystal pouch. Apparently they felt the need to make their presence known when they are not close to me physically. My stones help when I am picking up a ton of negativity around me. I always hold my willendorf goddes, citrine and jet in my hands and rub them when I'm upset and in minutes I feel better.
Melissa: I am pretty good at shielding out others when I really have to--whether for clarity (most of the time, to see what is mine and what belongeth to others--belongeth, btw, is said for to express mine inner semi-archaic, and only meant in that sense, for others I use thy, thine, etc., but use the 'belongeth' etc. suffixes for me--or for intense shielding. It is, however, very difficult for to shield out my birth mother. Her anxiety and stress sends darts right into my solar plexus.
A full-body in visualization suit of armour works wonders for me when I really need some heavy-duty shielding. Otherwise, it's mostly white-light or, for extra protection, a crow/raven feather shield/armour inside when really needed, (i.e., in scary parts of the city, etc., though I ask Helm god of guardians and Archangel Michael much of the time for to protect me also in that case.
Ask your spirit guides/family for to aid you in the process whilst you learn.
I visualize windows. They are like a two way mirrors. I can see all that is around me, but what comes in is my choice by how high I raise the window.
I like to use the negative reflecting mirrors in a situation like you had. Just picture mirrors circling you facing out and program them to reflect the negative energy and allow the positive through.
That's kinda like the disco ball thing I do...Others can not see through the mirrors but you can see out and they are there to reflect the negativity away from you. I even have the inside of the ball set us as a little astral sanctuary. There is a comfy chair, side table, blanket and book where I can escape to when the negativity is bombarding me. I know I am safe there.
Personally, I find it hardest to protect myself from family. They seem to just get under ones skin, especially moms.
I wish I could offer you some eye opening wisdom but I really don't have any.
Seems personal areas need to be approached differently.
One thing I have found helpful is releasing as much negative influence from my passed, dealing with that particular family member, and understanding they may hold secrets from their passed that were hurtful.
We sometimes think we know our families but I remember thinking about my mother and her childhood and knowing there were secrets she held and it is why she was the woman she was. That in itself assisted me on allowing some things to not bother me at all.
May you find guidance and wisdom amongst your family and friends here. As well as your Deities.