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WADV-Witches Against Domestic Violence

Witches Against Domestic Violence, support, infomative,.It is times as Women and men  we heal and stand up to any abuse, and be an example to others

Yes men welcomed too

 

19 yrs and up

Website: http://wadv-witchesagainstdomesticviolence.grouply.com/
Members: 46
Latest Activity: Feb 19, 2016

Witches Against Domestic Violence

 

 

 

 

 

This is a support group for self empowerment,  educational, encouragement

There is a saying if you do not like how things are going in your life change it

 

As Witches or those who claim to be we have no excuses

It is time  allow the Witch within to comeforth!!!!


 

   Don't be fooled by me.
Don't be fooled by the face I wear
For I wear a mask. I wear a thousand masks-
   masks that I'm afraid to take off
     and none of them are me.      
Pretending is an art that's second nature with me
          but don't be fooled,
   for God's sake, don't be  fooled.
I give you the impression that I'm secure
That all is sunny and unruffled with me
   within as well as without,
    that confidence is my name
     and coolness my game,
    that the water's calm
   and I'm in command,
  and that I need no one.
But don't believe me. Please!

My surface may be smooth but my surface is my mask,
My ever-varying and ever-concealing mask.
Beneath lies no smugness, no complacence.
Beneath dwells the real me in confusion, in fear, in aloneness.
   But I hide this.
    I don't want anybody to know it.
     I panic at the thought of my
            weaknesses
      and fear exposing them.
That's why I frantically create my masks
          to hide behind.  
They're nonchalant, sophisticated facades
          to help me pretend,
To shield me from the glance that
            knows.
But such a glance is precisely my salvation,
   my only salvation,
       and I know it.

That is, if it's followed by acceptance,
   and if it's followed by love.
It's the only thing that can liberate me from myself
   from my own self-built prison walls

I dislike hiding, honestly
I dislike the superficial game I'm playing,
   the superficial phony game.
I'd really like to be genuine and me.
But I need your help, your hand to hold
Even though my masks would tell you otherwise
That glance from you is the only thing that assures me
   of what I can't assure myself,
     that I'm really worth something.

But I don't tell you this.
   I don't dare.
      I'm afraid to.
I'm afraid you'll think less of me, that you'll laugh
   and your laugh would kill me.
I'm afraid that deep-down I'm nothing,
        that I'm just no good
             and you will see this and reject me.

So I play my game, my desperate, pretending game
With a facade of assurance without,
And a trembling child within.
So begins the parade of masks,

The glittering but empty parade of masks,
   and my life becomes a front.
I idly chatter to you in suave tones of surface talk.
I tell you everything that's nothing
   and nothing of what's everything,
                 of what's crying within me.
So when I'm going through my routine
   do not be fooled by what I'm saying
Please listen carefully and try to hear
   what I'm not saying
Hear what I'd like to say
   but what I can not say.

It will not be easy for you,
   long felt inadequacies make my defenses strong.
The nearer you approach me
   the blinder I may strike back.
Despite what books say of men, I am irrational;
I fight against the very thing that I cry out for.
   you wonder who I am
    you shouldn't
     for I am everyman
     and everywoman
      who wears a mask.
Don't be fooled by me.
At least not by the face I wear.

 

 

 

 

 

What is Domestic Violence?

Domestic Violence is a violent confrontation between family or household members involving physical harm, sexual assault, or fear of physical harm. Family or household members include spouses / former spouses, those in (or formerly in) a dating relationship, adults related by blood or marriage, and those who have a biological or legal parent-child relationship.

The batterer uses acts of violence and a series of behaviors, including intimidation, threats, psychological abuse, and isolation to coerce and to control the other person. The violence may not happen often, but may remain a hidden and constant terrorizing factor. Domestic violence is not only physical and sexual violence but also psychological. Psychological violence means intense and repetitive degradation, creating isolation, and controlling the actions or behaviors of the spouse through intimidation or manipulation to the detriment of the individual.

Domestic violence destroys the home. No one deserves to be abused. The responsibility for the violence belongs to the abuser. It is not the victim's fault!

 


Symptoms of Abuse - Misuse of Power And Control

Abuse in a relationship is any act used to gain power and control over another person. Women who are abused physically are often isolated. Their partners tend to control their lives to a great extent as well as verbally degrade them.

Listed below are some of the warning signs of domestic abuse. Look to see if there are multiple warning signs that are occurring in your life.

USING PHYSICAL AND SEXUAL ABUSE

Hair pulling, biting, shaking, pushing, pinching, choking, kicking, confinement, slapping, hitting, punching, using weapons, forced intercourse, unwanted sexual touching in public or in private and depriving her of food or sleep.

USING EMOTIONAL ABUSE

Insulting her in public or in private
Putting down her friends and family
Making her feel bad about herself
Calling her names
Making her think she's crazy
Playing mind games
Humiliating her
Making her feel guilty
Using Male Privilege; acting like "Master of the Castle"
Treating her like a servant
Making all the big decisions
Being the one to define men's and women's roles.

USING ECONOMIC ABUSE

Preventing her from getting or keeping a job
Making her ask for money
Giving her an allowance
Taking her money
Not letting her know about or have access to family income
Not allowing her a voice in important financial decisions
Demanding exclusive control over household finances.

USING COERCION AND THREATS

Making or carrying out threats to do something to hurt her
Threatening to leave her, or to commit suicide
Threatening to report her to welfare
Making her drop charges
Making her do illegal things.

USING INTIMIDATION

Making her afraid by using looks, gestures, or actions
Throwing or smashing things, destroying property
Abusing pets
Dangerous driving
Displaying weapons.

USING CHILDREN

Making her feel guilty about the children
Using the children to relay messages
Using visitation to harass her
Threatening to take the children away.

USING ISOLATION

Controlling what she does, who she sees, what she reads, & where she goes
Limiting her outside involvement
Refusing to let her learn to drive, go to school, or get a job
Not allowing her to freely use the car or the telephone.

USING JEALOUSY AND BLAME TO JUSTIFY ACTIONS

Minimizing, Denying, Blaming
Making light of the abuse and not taking her concerns about it seriously
Checking up on where she's been or who she's talked to
Accusing her of infidelity
Saying the abuse didn't happen
Shifting responsibility for abusive behavior
Saying she caused it.

 


Why Get Help?

The danger is real.

If you are controlling or have a controlling partner, don't ignore these behaviors. They are not the result of stress, anger, drugs or alcohol. They are learned behaviors that one person uses to dominate, intimidate and manipulate. They are destructive and dangerous.

If the abuse continues without outside help, the abusing partner may risk being arrested, going to jail, or losing the relationship.

Domestic violence hurts all family members. When a person is abusive he or she eventually loses the trust and respect of his or her partner. Abused partners are afraid to communicate their feelings and needs.

Everyone has the right to feel safe in a relationship. With help, people who are abusive can learn to be non-violent.

Learn the Warning Signs

Disagreements develop from time to time in relationships. Domestic violence is not a disagreement. It is a whole pattern of behaviors used by one partner to establish and maintain power and control over the other. These behaviors can become more frequent and intense over time.

The abusive person is responsible for these behaviors. That person is the only one who can change them. Don't wait until you and the ones you love get hurt. You Are Not Alone. Consider getting some help. Talk with friends about your situation.

 

 

Non-violence & Equality

 


Remember My Name Virtual Online Memorial

The National Coalition Against Domestic Violence (NCADV), in conjunction with Ms. Magazine, started the Remember My Name project in 1994 to create a national registry of names of those who have lost their lives to domestic violence. Since then, NCADV has continued to collect information on incidents of people who have been killed by an intimate partner and produces a poster each year for Domestic Violence Awareness Month listing the names of those submitted to the project. To date, over 7,753 people* have been memorialized through the project.

Names continue to be added daily. We ask you to take a moment to remember those we have lost to this senseless crime.


Kayla ---, age 4 TN (1998)
Mui Lan ---, age 39 HI (2000)
Marcus ---, age 28 MD (2001)
Marylou ---, age 32 PA (2003)
unidentified (wife of Jerry W. Bolden) ---, age --- MD (2003)
Mrs. Dollar ---, age 70 OK (2004)
Karen (Duncan) Taylor, age 34 KY (1995)
Deion Abbar, age --- NY (1998)
Melissa Abbott, age 31 VA (1998)
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Pamela Adkins, age 35 NY (2004)
Jamilah Adnah Al-Siraj, age 33 CO (2000)
Tania Aesoph, age 50 SD (2000)
Kathleen Ahearn, age 47 MA (1995)
Alicia Desma Aikin, age --- DC (1998)
Gulten Akaydin, age 45 VA (1998)
Monireti Akeredolu, age 46 TX (2007)
Justin Zorn, age 1 WI (2000)
James Zoucha, age 27 HI (2000)
Aasiya Zubair, age 37 NY (2009)


Names are listed alphabetically by last name. The year listed by each name is the year of the poster on which their name appears. This is only some and this is public info from various sites

 

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Comment by Kristi V on February 19, 2016 at 9:22pm

Hello

It has been awhile since I have been active on Pagan space. I am now back in the groove. A lot has happened in my journey.  I am now blogging my story here if you want to read and share. The battle inside and out can be won. BE YOUR OWN HERO!!!

Comment by Rebecca on March 10, 2015 at 10:10pm

I am a DV advocate in Florida I just want to say that this is one of the best laid out pages I have seen. Great job to the Admin

Comment by Kristi V on February 5, 2015 at 11:25pm
Hello, I am a survivor. I am presently building my own life for I and my kids. I am starting a business and working with a lot of people to stay safe and to try to put my ex in prison. There has been a lot of healing and growing. I am an artist and author. Gifts I am now free to exercise. Some of my work I do is designed to help encourage victims as they try to live again. I am hear to say I pray and meditate for women who are in and out of their situations. It is a very hard place to be. I am sharing my story and making others aware. You are not as alone as you feel.
Comment by Parvati Amethyst Nightshade on January 26, 2015 at 3:56am
I see it's been awhile since this group was active. That's quite a shame...
Comment by Candee Betancourt on December 3, 2011 at 11:34am
Just stopping by to see how everyone is doing as this is a time of year when Domestic Violence seems to escalate even more then normal. If anyone needs or wants to talk, I am only a post away. I wish everyone a Peaceful, joyous, healthy, Loving, and Prosperous New Year and the years to come. Happy Yule, Merry Christmas, whatever holiday you celebrate. Remember, you are never alone and it takes more courage to stand up and reach out then to stay in the abusive relationship, and there are many resources out there that can and will help you and your children. It's not an easy transition to make the decision to leave, but once yu are free from the abuser and the chaos of the situation, it does get easier.

Hugs
Comment by Celticlass...FAERIE QUEEN on July 14, 2011 at 8:20pm
MOVING is an adventure!!
Comment by treewitch on July 14, 2011 at 5:48am

Hi everyone,

Just wanted to stop by and say I hope everyone is doing ok. Me, I'm in the middle of packing up the condo to finally move next month around the 15th. I started packing yesterday and only got the two bookcases packed and already have 5 boxes full. I'm going to pack up the glassware for the bar next with all the booze and wine bottles. Have to go to the Liquor store and get some empty, partitioned boxes for that though. And we are headed back up to the new house tomorrow to meet with a couple vendors, one to clean out the dryer vent so I don't start a fire the first time I try to do laundry. LOL And then we are meeting with the electrician who is not only fixing some of the switches but also putting in some recessed lighting in the kitchen and some lights in a few of the closets. 

I am really excited but am also overwhelmed because all the packing is up to me with no outside help from the hubby or anyone else. Finding out I am not as young as I thought I was. Plus i have a kidney infection and my back is still out of whack. 

I truly hope that everyone here is doing well and if not I will use checking in daily to give me an excuse to take a break from alll the packing. So if anyone wants to talk or needs to talk, I will be here, or you can email me. 

Namaste,

Treewitch

 

Comment by Freefire Cauldron on June 19, 2011 at 1:22pm
If anybody out there can give me any ideas on how to get out of an emotionally abusive relationship.Please let me know! I need to know how to prove it. And I live on land owned by my in laws. I want to leave with my little girl. But I'm afaid it will be his whole family against me. Please help!
Comment by Candee Betancourt on June 14, 2011 at 6:21pm
So sorry I haven't been around more. I miss you all very much. I've just been so busy with the two houses and trying to get ready fir the final move which looks like it may be the end of July, right now. But then things tend to change from day to day.

Been in excruciating pain with my back and waiting over a month to get into the pain clinic, which will be next Monday, thank the Giddess. We are going on a weeks vacation with the kids and grandiose so hoping the doc gives me something so I can at least enjoy the week at the beach with everyone. Am in such pain now for so long, all I want to do is cry and I'm nasty as hell.


I truly hope you all are leaning on each other for strength when you need it and also talking about what hurts and troubles you as it does help. Even though I haven't been around, you are all in my thoughts and prayers and can contact me any time and I promise I'll answer you ASAP.
Peace, Strength, love, and Kindness to each of you and remember to be especially nice to yourselves.

Namaste,
Treewitch
Comment by Freefire Cauldron on June 2, 2011 at 6:13pm
I get so rired of being told how worthless I am.
 

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