Living a life without self-confidence or good self-esteem is one common way that others allow fear to “rule the show” in their lives. Fear is a concept, which indeed means many different things to many different people. However, most often the individual gives little thought (if any) to whether or not fear may be at work distorting perceptions from within the psychological and emotional being.
Ask any human being alive if they would like to have a life, which is greater, and more fulfilling that what they are presently involved with, and almost without fail you will find the answer is “yes.” Unfortunately, for many of those same individuals you would find that their own lack of self-confidence or lack of self-esteem keeps them from ever manifesting that which they truly desire.
If that is not enough, this concept of fear will go much deeper in the life as it affects many other aspects of it. Fear will even prevent some individuals from ever recognizing trust in terms of intra-personal and/or inter-personal relationships, particularly when relating to intimacy.
Fear is the anti-thesis to love, and as such, it is the most seductive force in the universe, which is not a good thing. For example, fear will distort perceptions from within the psychological and emotional being of an individual, and then fear will reinforce those distortions created. Finally, fear will completely mask the actuality of life itself, if the individual “allows it.” Quite often, the individual will think and feel they are being “realistic,” or that they have “matters under control.”
Take the example of one who believes it is not in their best interest to associate with another human being simply because their religious, spiritual, or philosophical beliefs are different from theirs. (They think this association might “taint them somehow” or “interfere with their relationship with Christ” for example.) Other examples include those who are in different social and economic groups who fear being “contaminated,” “made less,” or “what-have-you” by these obviously “lesser souls.” This list goes on and on…
Fear also holds others back from going after their desires or wishes because they are afraid to confront the “conflicts within” which are brought about because of fear’s connection in polarity to anything which is desired or wished for. If the individual were being candid, they would acknowledge that actually bringing about their desires would result in “changes” which they are not sure “they can handle” or “want to deal with.”
Fear is at the heart and soul of all those on the planet who are often perceived and interpreted as “evil.” In actuality, we are looking at those who made choices from a distorted space of fear, which then reinforced the distorted perceptions created, and then progressed to the point where the mind psychologically and emotionally became “closed” to the real actuality of the life. Furthermore, these souls’ abdicated responsibility and accountability for their choices to an “externalized deity”; by whatever name they call it.
Self-confidence and self-esteem are the keys to breaking this very unproductive cycle of creating the life through fear, rather than love. Whatever can be done in the life which is healthy, to promote good self-confidence and good self-esteem is very good work spiritually; for this is what enables the individual to create and achieve those things desired or wished for in the life. In intra-personal and/or inter-personal relationships, where trust is crucial to the continued growth and development of the relationship, self-confidence and good self-esteem are critical in achieving success on this level.
As for those individuals who commit horrific crimes against another (which again is often perceived and interpreted as “evil”) we would find in many of these cases that much improved self-confidence and good self-esteem would have mitigated or lessened the terrible crimes from occurring, if not having prevented them altogether of course. Indeed, there are exceptions here, but this article is not the place to discuss them.
Fear will hold people back from going after what they truly desire in life, and then they will rationalize to themselves why they are “justified” in not actually going after the thing initially desired. Fear keeps one from approaching their superiors. Fear keeps one from “bridging the gap towards physical intimacy with another.” Fear keeps one from achieving a life of greatness by rationalizing a life of mediocrity. I mean really, I could just go on all day about the things fear holds one back from.
What is the solution? Well, one more time; anything that builds self-confidence and good self-esteem is the key to stepping out of a life based in fear, to one that is based in love. When the life is lived from a space of love predominately, we will find those individuals who are “having the times of their lives.” In these instances, the life becomes so “blessed” that they simply cannot help but be excited about what tomorrow brings as they eagerly arise each morning to great the new day; and for the remainder of the lifetime, the best part of their lives are ahead of them, not behind. They live a daily life based in gratitude.
In the end, self-confidence and self-esteem are the keys to a life of success through overcoming one’s fears…