Family Conflict ...... Advice? Words of Wisdom?

Comment by Ritalin-Bunny on November 2, 2012 at 5:44am

"What can I do?!"

You can use this as an example of what to do in the future, since you can't go back to the past.

Mind your own business and let other people live their lives.

Comment by Ms.Pouncer-Curiousier&Curiousier on November 2, 2012 at 4:57pm

Would you be out of line to ask your brother to do things with you, without her around?

Right now, your brother is blinded by love. Unfortunately, friends and family will find the flaws in a person better and faster than the lover. If she is as messed up of a liar as she seems, he will realize in due time.

In the meantime, try to keep from getting closer with her than you already have to be...

Comment by Luna silverwolf on November 2, 2012 at 8:54pm

When she tries to drag you into their issues, either ignore her or tell her straight up your not interested.

if you wanted to take the magical route, you could always do a binding spell

Comment by Kixs on November 4, 2012 at 7:29pm

Hello Kylik, Here is what I advise, you can decide for yourself it will work for you or not.

You shouldn't confront your bothers new girl friend, it just puts her on the defensive and causes drama between you and your brother who you have protective feelings for. I know that you hold honesty in high esteem, but this girl doesn't. You are going to have to learn some new skills to deal with this woman.

One you will have to accept not everyone has your standards and that is ok.

Two you do not have to protect your brother he's a big boy and has to deal with his emotional life for himself.

Three, not everyone in your bothers life is going to be your best friend and they do not have to be.

Four, if you want a relationship with your brother, your going to have to accept his girl friend to some extent. You can not ignore her, simply because she is a part of your brothers life and by the sounds of it, a big part of his life.

This girl is a spoilt child, she wants all the attention and she will do whatever it takes to get it, even cause trouble between your brother and his family. So do not ignore her, when your interacting with her and she comes off with a lie, put on a I know your lieing smile and change the subject, do not confront her on the lie, it will only cause drama and trouble between you and your brother. If you catch her in a lie while communicating with her in writing, use a whatever or if you say so.  At these times just remember you can go home or get them to or sign off with some excuse, the lamer the better then she will know you are dumping her because of the lie, just do not directly point out the lie, then you will not have to deal with her.

I don't see your brother as an idiot and in time he will see her as she truely is. This is his first and whether men want to admit it, they are much more emotional than women when it comes to such things and less logical. So trying to point out her weaknesses to him will only make him defend her. Make it very clear to him you will always love him, no matter what, and you will always be there for him no matter what. The goal for you is harmony. Do not make it a battle or you will loose your brother and it will take a very, very long time to fix that.

The goal is harmony.

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