Letting Go of Loved Ones

Do Spiritualists Grieve?


Do Spiritualists grieve for loved ones who pass over? Absolutely. Grieving is a very important part of the healing process. When a loved one dies, we feel sorrow for our loss, we miss them, we don't want to live our lives without them. Expressing these emotions is necessary for our own healing. But we try to do so while wishing the deceased well on their journey back to Spirit, and being genuinely glad for them, although our hearts may be breaking at that moment. In my own personal experience, believing that there truly is no such thing as "death" (meaning our consciousness, personality, and awareness do not die) has helped me tremendously in letting go of loved ones who have passed over. Knowing that they are okay, that they are happy where they are now, knowing that they can come to visit me whenever they wish, and knowing that I will see them again someday gives me such a feeling of inner peace.



Letting Go of Loved Ones

Many Spiritualists, myself included, believe that by "hanging on" to someone who has died, we can actually hold them back from progressing on the other side. They feel the "pull" we exert on them, and it keeps them from fully moving into the Light.

How do we hang on to our deceased loved ones? By refusing to accept their deaths, by refusing to let go of them, by remaining mired in our anger and denial. Please do not misunderstand me. These are all very important parts of the grieving process, and we must go through them. But the final stage of grief is acceptance, and many people do not allow themselves to reach that stage, which keeps them from fully healing.

I believe it is possible to let go of our loved ones while still in the midst of our grief, rather than as the final step in our grieving. It is a process though, and will not happen overnight. We may have days where we feel okay about it, and then find ourselves mired in anger or sorrow again the next day. It is normal to vacillate between acceptance, sorrow, anger, and denial as we heal.

If we are gentle and patient with ourselves, if we give ourselves the time we need to grieve, we will one day be healed, and be ready to move on with our lives.


Communication from Beyond


I am a firm believer that our deceased loved ones can still hear us, that they are still aware of us, and still love us. I also believe that they are much closer to us than we realize. Talking to your deceased loved ones can be cathartic and comforting. Believe that they can hear you, and don't be surprised if you suddenly feel their presence nearby.

Often, our loved ones will send us a sign from the other side, to let us know that they are okay. It is easy to dismiss these signs as coincidence, as they are often subtle. A sign can be anything, from an early blooming flower, to the person's favorite scent suddenly appearing out of nowhere in a closed room. Whatever shape the sign takes, you will know it when you see it. No matter how subtle these signs often are, they usually hit our consciousness with the force of a sledgehammer, and can be very powerful emotionally. Be sure to thank your loved one, in your heart, when you feel you have received a sign from them.