There are many different ways that we can learn lessons. A method that may work for on may not work for another. Learning through pain and suffering is only ONE way to learn and it is not necessarily the CORRECT way to learn a lesson. Unfortunately, we have been brainwashed as a society to believe in "No Pain, No Gain".
When a parent is trying to teach a child that the stove eye is hot they do not take the child's hand and slam it down onto a red hot eye and hold it there! They may demonstrate that the eye is hot by asking the child to move their hand nearer the stove eye and supervise them so that they understand that glowing red is not to be touched.
Every lesson in life does not have to be learned through pain and suffering!
What if the child isn't convinced the stove is hot until they put their own hand ON the eye, though? o.o Should the parent gradually move the child's hand closer and closer until they know for a fact the eye will burn them, supervising the entire time.. or do they stand down and let the child learn the lesson on their own later down the line? This is all for the child's protection, but not all parents can "find the time" to go through the trouble of parenting "ethically".. they have their general guidelines, and follow those guidelines to a t.. the child WILL be safe as a result of their parent convincing them entirely.. but that parent did so inappropriately even though they always had options to choose from. Time saving can be practical, but limiting and dangerous when overly promoted. Promoting ethics/ideals can be perceived as a waste of time by practical people that are more action oriented and/or grounded.. Adaptability vs practicality.. what is wrong vs. right? The truth is, both are correct AND incorrect, but either can learn from the other.. That is the important thing.
This was part of a synchronistic lesson I had today.. I found this guy's post after debating with my cousin about Christianity..
Our discussion was very interesting because we are both very strong, dedicated believers in what we stand for.. [she, a very faithful, dedicated christian, me, an eclectic, more spiritual than religious pagan]
I learned a lot about differences of opinion, and to be honest, I couldn't be happier that our debate ended in a satisfying standoff..
[I felt like I was winning and she felt like she was winning, but we both got to defend what we believed.. and our way of seeing the world was transformed for the better.. xD]
I found her belief system to be dogmatic. She thought I was too independent.
I haven't argued with many people about religion with the actual ability to cover every angle before, but this was just so fricking awesome. ^___^
Anyway.. after that conversation, I saw this post from one of the Magick Shops in town.. probably one of the owners posted it.
I was so busy being extremely upset with the dogmatic point of view after our conversation because I felt like she was limiting herself, and then I responded to this synchronistic post in an unexpected way..
It was like a channeling sort of because the words just flew into the comment box despite my earlier opinion..
I was suddenly defending both positions with stronger understanding and a new respect for practicality..