So, I had been called out. I do not need to post title and name of the user, as Starrfire wishes.
I am the perfect example of offended by stupid.
I am the perfect example of someone who will tear a shitty and shoddy analogy apart.
"Mother Nature made cows to give milk for all" is probably the shittiest analogy of October 2012, and will enter history as such.
After I had explained how the analogy was shitty, I made an own analogy for what a real sexist is, someone who likes milk and beef (and everything else you can make of cow), but hates cows.
On with the show:
For the love of vagina see my comment about the cow.
Otherwise, the whole topic is being tackled from the wrong side, with an unsound mindset, and just makes me go WUT? Also, zero points for dissecting a generally exploitive, rank-fixated, overly competitive, and object-oriented mindset here. "asshole" -> I am not impressed.
Apparently you have no clue bout why people buy sex. Hint: it is not the sex itself, in the most cases. For example, you do not have to care for the gratification of someone you pay. Also there is something about paying, and then being in a certain position. No free sex in the world will be a sufficient substitute. There is a reason why it is called "the oldest trade of mankind" in my native tongue.
Also: You aren't exactly a neuro-scientist.
Second: Nudism has NOTHING to do with sex, sorry.
A "white rich man" will always pay a dominatrix to tease him if that is what he wants. Why should he not?
So, Vanilla, that is where it should be at? I hope you never have a say when it comes to forcing your ideas of sex on a community, or even a single person other than yourself, urgh.
Sex is holy? BS. (I'd deliver arguments if needed) At best, sometimes it is.
Power struggles are a root of ebil? BS. (I'd deliver arguments if needed)
Once there was an asshattish person on PS, who was left by a woman because he could not deliver, and then he wrote upset things about greedy women who demand outrageous sex because their ego is bloated. Let this melt in your mouth: DEMANDING A DECENT LAY IS HAVING A BIG EGO! *stabs self with old pen*
OK that would be only your opinion, which you did base on your own values, morals and ideals, and not much on any more educated and enlightened feminist who works I ever read. I'd like to know where that all came from, but since the person has been removed from PS, bummer.
The reason why many women are attracted to "asshole men", that would be aggressive alpha types, is because of the testosterone, most likely. My own theory is that women perceive the nice guys as probably being an awful lay.If you don't have enough testosterone as a male, the female must worry that you can not protect her/offspring - against other predators of any species - or can't jump a puma in the face, or can't kill any supper. Being aggressive is still a great plus, like men react positively to a body language that is strongly suggesting submission, applying hetero-normatives here (!!!).
All this has nothing to do with mental illness, it is hormones, chemistry, animal stuff. And personally I do not judge nature, but I also avoid to draw weird conclusions or even morals. The problem is not the fact, the problem is always the interpretation.
Again, you don't really understand many feminisms, but seem to know a very few variations only.
That it did not occur to you that you have an issue that you need to promote "sluttiness" as an actual solution, must be typical.
"[...] sexist men will continue to just see feminism as a foreplay"
ummmyeah, right. Some people might see racism as a foreplay even. Frankly, I think you should lay off the drugs.
"Kink in our culture is really just ego-masturbation"
Since you like it yourself, please speak for yourself, so much generalizing. Seriously WTF.
I put the rest of the "discussion" in the comments.
Children, say no to drugs!