Soul Mates

What are soul mates? How do you recognize it when you meet? Do you have problems with them in life or does life go smoothly once you find your soul mate? Should your soul mate need to look elsewhere for gratification of any sort?
These are questions I have for everyone, to see how you see them.
Personally, I see Soul Mates as being a part of each other that goes through the life cycles and hopefully finds each other again time after time. I feel that when you meet your soul mate you will recognize that other part of you that has been missing, and that your soul mate should also recognize you. It may be instantaneous, or it may take a while of getting to know each other to realize who each other is.
Just as with any other relationship, I feel that the road ahead of you may not be smooth as glass, but may have bumps and turns along the way. Disagreements along the way should be expected and may be healthy for them as well. It would be nice to think everything would be euphoric, and for some this may be.
However, I dont believe that Soul Mates would deliberately do anything to harm the other, mentally or physically. I think they would be considerate of each others feelings and would think before doing something that may cause pain to the other one as a result of their action.I believe that they would not need to look outside their union for any kind of gratification. Sure, they may look at other people and find them attractive, but need to see others naked or engaged in sexual activities just because the they are not getting what they want at the moment? No, I dont think this is something a Soul Mate would do. If presented with pictures of others, could they look and appreciate the pictures? Sure. Nothing to be ashamed of in the naked body and sex. But purposely seeking it out, no.
So tell me how you view Soul Mates so I can see if perhaps my expectations are too high or on course or what ever.
Thanks to all and Brightest Blessings.

Tags: mates, relationships, soul, souls, unions

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Permalink Reply by Selene on March 5, 2008 at 1:02pm: Hmmmmmm. Another good way to look at it. And i was thinking of you when I wrote that post, hoping that you'd see it and respond. Being something to someone is very hard, no matter what the terminology, isn't it?

BTW, I have NEVER liked chocolate. So I'd appreciate it if someone would tell me what it does to a woman besides make her voluptuous? I could do with a little volup!
Blessings,
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Permalink Reply by Marcy & Jerry Smith on March 6, 2008 at 8:53am: Hmmmm this is a touchy subject. I have one of my soul mates as my life partner but he is free to do as he pleases as long as I am at the top of his list. Shoot I even have seen women I would do under the right circumstances. The nature of the beast is not monogamy and it doesn't matter where he puts his "protruding part" as long as he remains my heart mate and doesn't bring anything home that cannot either be put to work or gotten rid of :) I also believe in relationship. I believe this is the plane of relationship and as such it is my endeavor to experience relationship in many manners.

While I have freely given him his freedom he has yet to take me up on it and that has been 8 years. If he does, then I did say "do as you will". I believe sex is great, fun, and should be explored as a means for personal growth but I also do not believe it should be used as a condition of my love or acceptance. When I married I understood the nature of the beast and it is an artifical condition we place on our men to expect them to remain what we called physically faithful. As long as he is faithful in his heart then why should it matter? This is my second marriage. The first one I was married to for 23 years and he "fooled" around on me. I had no problem with his doing this, the problem I had was he lied about it and then sneeked around. If he wanted to do that with soembody else then he would have been better being upfront. I cannot stand a lack of honesty and integrety. I always told him he was free to be just don't lie to me. We have talked about it many times since then. He really is a good guy just not very honest even today with his new wife.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by NCWyldewytch on March 13, 2008 at 10:17pm: Tracey, I think I love you!! You just made me laugh so hard.....got tears coming out of my eyes. As you see I have not had much time here lately so Im catching up tonight. And at least I know it was not that anything was missing from the homeside at first....once I added on pounds and lost the drive, well..anyway thats is still another story for another year....
I t just made me think however that perhaps sthis person I thought was my soul mate was not due to this behavior. sigh.....protruding parts did not go anywhere....just the thoughts that he needed other companionship at the time that hurt so bad. Now Im over it and I look myself and If I see something...who knows now? But I have to wonder if he truly is my soul mate....I dont feeel it anymore. I love him for other reasons, but Im getting no lighter or younger to be off looking I guess for anyone else.
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Permalink Reply by Christine on March 5, 2008 at 1:19pm: Oh Selene,

Chocolate triggers the same brain receptors as sex! Makes you feel all giddy inside! I used to be a chocolate hater until they started coming out with the dark variety. Now I'm a junkie and my poor hubby isn't getting any attention paid to him, LOL. Oh well, a girls got have a vice and that one is mine. Now about the voluptuous thing. Haven't seen any improvement on that front so I guess it isn't meant to be! Either that or I need to start eating more!; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Selene on March 5, 2008 at 2:14pm: Chris, you never fail to enlighten me and to make me smile at the same time. Voluptuousness can be in front of you, or behind you, LOL. Some of us have one or the other and some have a lot or none. I wish I were sitting on a little more padding, that's all.

Is it only women for whom chocolate works in that manner - does anyone know?
As for vices, I guess I'll just work on improving the ones I have....I'm thinking that with my fibro brain, and the fried neurons, that might be why even the smell of chocolate makes me nauseated, but still, I have baked many a chocolate cake in my day, gagging while my family gorged.

Funny - barely cooked, protein-laden bloody meat causes that "sex" receptor to come alive in this aging body. I think I'm going to find something to eat now......
Enjoy thy vices, whatever they may be!
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Permalink Reply by Jez on March 5, 2008 at 3:24pm: Hmm, don't know if it makes me horny but it makes me happy!; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Nyx_DarkSky on March 10, 2008 at 2:24pm: Hi Everyone.. I keep coming back to this discussion unsure of weather or not to comment because, well, it’s hard to put words to feelings. But, I decided to (try) and give it a shot, so please bare with me, because, again, it’s really hard to put words to feelings.

Soul Mate, OH Yes, its 1000% Real! I’d have to say soul mates is what my husband and I are to each other.

My husband and I meet in the second grade and became best friends. There was no puppy love boyfriend or girlfriend stuff, just best friends. As for me, well I was that wild child, into the bad boys growing up, (lol) and him (lol) he was that nerd wayyyy before nerds were cool, down to the tape on the glasses pocket protector, and way out of date polyester pants.

Growing up through the years we would go our own ways in life (marriages to others) not seeing or hearing other from each other for months. I think the longest was almost a year. Then out of the clear blue something would make me think about him in passing, wondering how he was doing. It never failed!! He would always show up some how in my life, either stopping by for a visit, bailing me out of what ever jam I had gotten myself into with the bad boys, or running into each other at the store.

It was freaky I tell you!! It never failed, once I thought about him, no later then 7 days some how we would unexpeditedly find each other. It was like this for almost 25 years I know. Kind of freaked me out growing up, making me think he was spying on me or something. But, then again, how was he to know I had thought about him in passing? I’m telling you, it was freaky.

12 years ago he had divorced his second wife, and I had been divorced from my Bumb!, of a second husband, and ran into each other again.. He needed a place to stay, and I had a spire room so he moved in. Again, we were just friends, never dated, or for that matter even held hands.

About 3 weeks after he had moved in, one day he left for work, and BAM!, it was like a freaking ton of bricks had fallen on me. I swear to you, I was heart broken he was gone, and really missing him, almost to the point of tears. (I am sooo not a crying person, and very independent, by that time). I could not figure out what was wrong with me, I was fixing to make a doctors apt., all these feelings were just flooding through me. I know it wasn’t an hour later, when he come walking through door, saying that he decided to take the day off. Here me when I say this, (lol) you can set your watch by this guy, he’s always on time and never misses a day of work. This was totally out of creature for him, he is the type that could be dead, and rise from the coffin to go to work, lol. Later on he did tell me he didn’t know why he came home he just felt he had to, all he could think of was “Go Home”.

As they say, the rest is history…. From that day on we have never left each other’s side. We work the same hours in the same place, we go shopping together, one never eat’s without the other, and we never go to bed without the other coming to bed also. Where you see one, the other is not far off. We don’t fight or argue, hold very high respect for each other, we support each other in everything, were best friends, husband and wife, lovers, and if one of us get’s hurt the other feels it. I guess the only thing I can compare it to (in words) is the “twin” thing. You know how they always say twins feel what the other is thinking and feeling. That’s the only way I can explain what he and I have. I’m telling you (lol) it’s freaky at times. If this isn’t soul mates I don’t know what is.

I know the bad relationships. 2 very abusive husbands, not to mention many, many abusive boyfriends in the middle. Black eyes, busted lips, and living in fear of a constant fight was the norm for me. I remember in those days every night looking up at the moon and stars asking is this all there is to life, and wishing on the first star of the night for that Knight on that White Horse to rescue me.

Is this what makes our relationship as special as it is (soul mates)? We know the bad paths that we see so many times on tv. Is it the magick of the universe that say were meant to be together? I don’t know, it’s so freaky and just blows me away at times. I do know one thing, there is totally magick in all this some where, some how, because there have been too many things happen that logic can not explain…

Now, I know most of you reading this are thinking that I am BS’ing you. But I swear it’s all 100% truth. Even now, I can be thinking about something, going to a movie, or out to dinner, and the next thing I know, he’s saying, “Hay let’s go out to a movie or dinner”..

He and I did ask each other once a long time ago, that if we would of got together (as a couple) as kids would we of made it. We’ve both decided, NO, we had to must growing and learning to do. But, even back in the growing and learning phase of our lives, we were never far apart.

It blows my mind even now, and gives me chills thinking about it today and writing this. True love, soul mate love is a very odd, strange, unexplained, WONDERFUL thing. If the relationship that my husband and I have is not true love with your soul mate, then I don’t know what is.

I think I’m gong to go and give my hubby a big hug and a kiss, it’s been about an hour since our last. 

Have a Magickal Day All,
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Permalink Reply by Enola Ebony-Sky on March 12, 2008 at 12:40pm: It's a tricky one and depends on your view of soul mate mine is some one you share a natural affinity with . does your soulmate has b to be your partner in my oppinion no. I share a greater affinity with one of my children than my husband . to me a soulmate is someone who feels apart of your whole self and that wih out them there is a part of you missing. if your soulmate is your partner then it would be considered wrong to o seek gratification else where and if a true soulmate then they probably wouldn't stray. my question is they maybe your soulmate but are you theirs?; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Marcy & Jerry Smith on March 12, 2008 at 3:45pm: I agree about the kid part. The question is a really good one and I am interested to hear what people say about it. I think it's mutual based on what I have experienced but want to hear what experiences others have had :); ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by NCWyldewytch on April 9, 2008 at 9:01pm: Thanks to everyone for your repsonses. I am hoping now that I will be young enough to enjoy mine if I get to meet him in this lifetime. sigh...; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by SageMotherRaven on April 10, 2008 at 1:13am: I think the term has been stretched completely out of shape.

A soulmate is someone who seems to be in tune with your thoughts, and is not necessary a lover.
You can have many soul mates. There isn't just one being who can fit the description. It could be a son, a daughter, or even your worst enemy, in this incarnation.

Those who seem in tune with your thoughts and emotions, almost an extension of yourself, can be labeled "soulmate".; ▶ Reply to This