Past Life Issues....

I've erased and restarted this about five times now, so forgive me if it's a tad disjointed.

I've known a guy (Let's call him Ron) for about 5 years now. I have always known that at some point we were together before this, I knew it the instant we met and even before, but I did not know until the last three months or so that we were in fact together more than once. Our current relationship is not romantic, not even anywhere close to that, we are simply very close friends with no reason to make it anything more.

Now the issue lies with things I left unsaid and undone at the end of that life, which bubble to the surface every time I speak to him or think of him. This leads to some pretty uncomfortable situations, as he's not sure exactly why I just randomly broke into tears on the phone and had to take a second to compose myself. These are things that I'm not confident that I am ready to deal with yet, and I'm pretty sure he's not either, so I am seeking advice on the next step to take. I've been suppressing it for a long time, but obviously that is no longer working. Do I try to continue to ignore it? Or just suck it up and deal with it?

And who knew that spiritualist teenagerdom was this complicated!?

Thanks so much, I appreciate it.
Hugs and Blessed be
Angi

Tags: past life, reincarnation

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Permalink Reply by magikalangelmom3 on June 29, 2008 at 2:58am: i don't know if you are still seeking assistance with this unsettling but completely positive situation. i am new to the site and am not willing to tell anyone what to do but i can suggest that you take as much time as you feel necessary to process your emotions. if you are crying then you obviously feel deeply connected to this person and have had an experience that evokes such a strong response. i, too, feel a strong compulsion to communicate and bond with people i get a similar feeling about or with and understand the driving need to do something about it. first, is this a person who is familiar with past lives and does he know you are interested in them as well? is he open emotionally or difficult to reach? perhaps you can comment on what you know, remember, sense, etc. from your past life experiences with him but do so in a way that is not invasive or threatening. casual comments followed by nothing but silence often affect people more strongly than a long, drawn out discussion. though i would advise that you tread lightly doing so or you may veer toward manipulation(subconsciously, of course) and that is not fair or respectful to either of you.
good luck and if this is no longer an issue, i hope that what you did choose worked well for both of you.
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Permalink Reply by Celticlass on July 4, 2008 at 9:24am: Merrymeet ALL I have three people in my life like this,that I KNOW,i knew them in another time and place,My Knight husband(Who always wants to defend my honor.I guess I need defending quite a bit,ha!),my best friend Brandi,who was a mermaid in another life,and my friend Greg in Inverness Scotland. When i met David,my husband,13 years ago,the day I met him,.I told him I knew him from another "time" ad he recognized it too,same with Brandi,we even knew where in the scottish highlands of the 1500s. Last year we went to Culloden commemoration in Scotland and met Greg the first 5 minurtes int Inverness,he said you are my sister from another time and I said,aye,you are my brother! The Goddess guides us to these soul mates,I believe!! Good fortune on your journey!! Slainte.Celticlass; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by sweetlady1155 on July 8, 2008 at 12:02am: I am no expert in this matter, but I do agree with Black Diamond in the assessment that we are to keep coming back until we "get it right" - I think that this lifetime so many things have come into alignment (i.e. your genuine, deep friendship) so that you and Ron can finally take care of the past issue - all with a positive outcome. Soooo I would suggest that there is NOTHING in this lifetime that the two of you cannot discuss and deal with in an open, healthy manner. I applaud your courage and sensitivity. Obviously, having Ron as a true friend will continue in the future as it has in the past - what an extraordinary opportunity you both have to complete the task and learn the lesson together - I imagine the impact it will have far outweights the uncomforable feelings you have experienced leading up to this. Please let me know how this works out for you. Oh, I almost forgot - may I suggest a way to come up with a solution to any difficulty - I have found that writing the issue down - reading it and thinking about it as you drift off to sleep every night - will allow your wonderful mind to work things out without the day to day (and lifetime to lifetime) interference that seems to keep us from concentrating solely on problem at hand.

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Permalink Reply by Celticlass on July 16, 2008 at 6:55pm: I dont know if it is so much getting it right,but being able to experience all! The Druids believed none was over or under other forms of life,just different,life being the wind,trees,worms,waves and the hunan form,all part of the circle. We could understand more,the more we are/were.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Atreya on July 17, 2008 at 4:15pm: I can also relate to your problem Angi. I've been aware of past life connections with others since I was small, ( I told my mom when I was 4 that I was her mother who had died when she was 2) but growing up primarily Baptist....well, that wasn't accepted at all. With my dad's family it was different, but that's a different story. Anyway, if your friend is receptive, see if he'd sit down with you and talk, maybe even do a simple guided meditation/regression with him to help him remember. As others have said, you need to deal with this issue or you wouldn't be re-visiting it so strongly. I wouldn't put it off too long as we never know what tomorrow may bring. By the same token, it is not your responsibility, but his, for him to grow. And it's up to you to grow by letting this thing go if you know that's what you need to do.
( Be aware that setting this to rest MAY also set to rest the reason for your relationship this time around and you may soon drift apart.)
So if you can come to the place where you can say, " I know you don't remember this, but once upon a time you did thus and such, and I just want you to know I really forgive you." Or, conversely, "Once upon a time I did this. I'm really sorry. Will you forgive me?" He may look at you funny but I bet he'll say, "ok, sure." ( Input your situation you get the idea)
And, you'll probalby think I'm nuts for this one, but try to enjoy the sensitivity that somes with being a teen. Yes, it's intense and crazy and chaotic. But you will never be this sensitive again. So, relish the time that you are the Maiden. You have amazing power right now.
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